I've been with my boyfriend off/on for a couple of years now. I broke up with him for about 7 months. I decided to give him another chance, we both promised to change for the better. We started seeing each other for the past month, but my issue is he rarely has anytime for me.

He travels a lot with his job, and when he's around he's always busy. I've asked him if he was seeing anyone, and he assures me no. He tries to make time for me, but I'm just having a hard time believing that work consumes all his time.

He recently got sick, and is recovering so I try not to stress him out with my needs. I want to break up with him, but he won't let me. Instead he tells me to give him time. I don't know if to give him time, or just call it quits.

This question is close to my heart.
And you have no idea what being apart from someone you love is. Here is my story
But first you have to relax if he says no then you need to trust me. He has given you no reason to do so other wise? Correct so be a supportive person.

Some people work so much and yes work is a very important thing to them.
I Myself work a lot and travel and have hardly seen my girl. Last year I only saw her for 3 days.

Other than that its Long dist for me.
So we talk on the phone Skype and email

One thing you are never too busy for is a quick I love you text or a how are you email.
That takes what 15 seconds? But then that comes down to the person you are with
Both me and her are very affectionate people and love showing emotion to one another so it fits
But if you are the one that is always showing affection and not getting what You want.. note I say the word You want in return then you think or feel the other person does not love
That's not the case. Many people have different ways of showing love.


Do I love her? More than anything
Why don't I spend time her with? Why is work so important?

Well so I can support the people I love and care about which is her and my family.

I like your boyfriend don't intent on being so busy for ever

What helped me and my girl out was we spoke about our End Goals together and we are both working towards them.

You both have to know that there will be light at the end of this tunnel being away is hard but so is being with someone its only down to how you deal with those situations together will make or break you as a couple.

Talk to him come up with an end goal for both of you
Do you want to still be living together the next 5 years?
Do you want a future together?
Do you want to have kids
Get married

I know these are all very hard questions but these are the things you need to first Ask yourself then him.
Because if you say no to just one of them.. then well why are you worrying and just enjoy the time you get when you can. Once you are in a serious relationship then and only then both of you can make discussions together that will affect both of your lives
Until then

Have and enjoy the time you get
And let the other person live there's.

All the best

Remember talking! Is key

Quit. It is obvious that you expect more time from him NOW. If he has not gave you pleasant reason to wait, than don't!

Ask him where he sees the relationship headed. What he foresees in 5-10 years. If it's all about work (Promotion, moving closer etc.) then you've got signs he isn't taking the relationship as seriously as you are.

However, It sounds like you've decided. You've already stated you want to break up.

X Dani

If his work requires a good deal of his time, you have two choices. Accept it, spend time with him when you can, see where things go in the relationship, spend more time with your friends and family, and focus on your own work more.

Or, you can break-up and be available to meet someone who can spend more time with you.

As was said, quick phone calls or a text now and then can help to fill in some of the gaps of time from spending together. Maybe something like that will help you to feel more connected.

Discuss it with him, see if a compromise of some sort can be worked out so that both of your needs are met.

What made you think that your relationship would be different this time. By saying you both agreed to change, what exactly does that mean.

Were you both willing to identify and work on the issues that broke you up in the first place? Did you discuss what would be different, exactly?

Taking a stab here- but, was one of the issues that contributed to the breakup, his lack of being able to schedule time with you, or maybe he was a poor communicator? Did he do his thing, and you did yours, and never the twain shall meet?

If this is a repeat of what was part of past problems, or, if his lack of interest is on top of other problems, or if his disinterest is something new, you really need to talk to this man.

It isn't enough to simply say you want a relationship. That is only the very beginning. It takes work, putting the others' needs before your own, listening, contributing, building a solid and lasting foundation, figuring out how to solve differences, what eachother's expectations and needs and wants are, etc. etc. etc.

If you are left longing for what you thought was to be when you went back with him, and he is not making an effort, it isn't likely things will change without some type of communication, to work things out.

If he can't, or won't, fit you in his schedule for even a day, or an afternoon, to seriously discuss what needs changed, or improved, then what's the point.

Thanks for all your response,he's a good guy and I know he loves me, I did talk to him and he said he just wants to get himself together financially so he could retire/ self employed in 2-3yrs/and us having kids and all the good stuff. He said he's not going anywhere and doesn't want me to go anywhere either. Its still a tough decision for me to make but I have decided to work with him and see where this takes us.

Well, he does sound like he has a plan outside of working and being absent all the time now. Sounds like if he's also planning to have children with you, he's really thinking long term!

Maybe this is a case of realizing all the good things, not too far down the road.

Good luck to you bunny.

You are not his priority, you are an option. You have seen enough to know what life is like, and be like with him. Isn't that enough to make a decision?

He is who he is and may never change so either deal with him that way, or leave, and don't go back.