Do any other women lives alone and are too afraid to go outside at nights because your afraid you may get kidnapped, raped, or murder? Is that normal? That is reason why when it start getting dark I get my butt in the house and not walks the streets & and I lives in the suburbs in a nice neighborhood too, not the ghetto.

I lived alone for over nine years - I was careful but, no, I'm not afraid.

I have two large, protective dogs at the house - but I have always gone out at night.

I also was the adult victim of rape.

I think if fear controls you, you have a problem. It is not unreasonable to be concerned - it is unreasonable to let that fear control you.

Have you ever been attacked? I would say if you have, this is probably a normal reaction. I am not afraid to be out after dark -- I am cautious though if I am in unfamiliar surroundings or going to my car alone. I think to be cautious is good, and learn safety techniques and ways to protect yourself. Be safe!