I have been w/ my boyfriend for 10 months. He has been nothing but wonderful. Recently, I received a message from his ex who told me that she has been seeing him since he and I started dating. She said the longest they went without sleeping together was a month, but for the most part, she and him have been seeing one another. I don't know whether to believe her or not. I asked her for proof, she didn't respond. She told me she saw him on this specific day and early in the morning. Being the psycho that I am, I found out from his job that he actually worked the day she claimed to have seen him and he worked during the time frame that she gave me. However, I did find text messages from her to him, but he didn't respond and a few phone calls from her where they only talked for 5 or 6 minutes. I love him so much, but she has me doubting him in a big way and I honestly don't know what to do. I don't want to ruin the relationship with my insecurities and I know I am, but I want to know if he cheated and there's no way of knowing... please help and please don't be overly harsh!

From what you've said, it doesn't sound like he's cheating on you. I'm guessing since she doesn't "have" him, she doesn't want you to have him either. (Ever see the movie Fatal Attraction?)

Of course, you can tell him what's going on and ask him -- and watch him closely when he answers. But don't grill him.

I think she is pulling your chain, making trouble, and this is something your boyfriend should be told.

But be cool about it. You have already found out she is most likely lying, so don't sweat the dumb stuff.

Normally when people think there pertness is cheating. It's Mostly them think up these craze Sinarieos in here head

You know the ones where your girl meets a guy at her work she comes home one night tells you oh he is really cool he has a degree etc etc next thing you see in you head is them two having sex on the desk with a photo of you under them while he holds his degree in his hands!


Ugh! But at least you know for that she is most likely lying and enternaing those thoughts does nothing intact it's even mor damaging then If they are cheating at least in my view.

It will be hard but be calm about this and talk with him about it :)


All the best

While you have to wonder/worry about her motives, and why she bothered to call at all, the fact is she did call. And you know that he has at least kept in touch with her by text. They have maintained some sort of relationship together, otherwise he'd have blocked her number.

If she was working hard to get him away from you, that would be her motive right? So, he must be aware of that himself. I think there is more to it than the 'evidence' you have so far.

It's hard to think that she would behave this way, totally and completely catching your boyfriend off guard, and that this was all out of the blue with absolutely no truth to it.

Talk to your boyfriend. After 10 months, you should be able to talk about what you know, and see what his reaction is.

If you feel that you are satisfied with his answsers and reaction, I would tuck that away, and proceed with caution.

I would talk to your boyfriend. Tell him about her phone calls etc. Just be careful not to accuse him.