I'm a 23 year old man and in excellent physical condition however throughout my life I've had a low sex drive and didn't get my first girlfriend until a couple of months ago ( a fact that she's not aware of). Throughout my life I've never really been attracted to anyone male or female am confident that I'm not homosexual but am a little metro sexual and enjoy musicals, singing and dancing although that's a fact that I mostly keep to myself. I've been taking enzyte as well as a pill called libido max to compensate. My girlfriend knows I'm taking enzyte but not libido ( I keep it in an old fish oil bottle for discretion). She's understanding about the enzyte but the truth is without the sexual desire from the libido max I don't think that I could have sex with anyone. And I feel that if she knew I was taking it she would take it personally because I have to take pills in order to have sex with her plus I fear that that will make me seem less like a man. I don't like keeping secrets from her but feel that I can't tell her the truth. Without the pills I wouldn't have the normal urges but would have remorse every time I go to bed and there's no one beside me. Without the pills I appreciate female beauty but don't want to have sex. I really care for my girlfriend and with the pills the sex is amazing and eventually I want to settle down and start a family but don't want to be reliant on sex pills the rest of my life. I think that part of the reason I'm having this issue is I think deep down part of me views sex as evil this is due to an extreme Judea Christian view and paranoia I'm considering seeking counseling or slowly winging myself off the pills or a combination of the two. Basically I have issues that need to be resolved because I don't want to be alone or be reliant on pills for the rest of my life.

First thing is to get a complete check up make certain there is nothing physically wrong with you. Tell the doctor what you have been taking and for how long. Be completely honest. If there is a medical reason for your low libido, you need to know. It could be something curable that will get you off the pills or on more effective medications.

Once you have a clean bill of health you can look other factors such as mental blocks.

Communicate with your girlfriend. Let her know what is going on and that it is not her. Let her know you are looking for solutions and not just temporary 'fixes' that aren't working. If she knows she can work with you instead of starting to get worried and putting pressure on you without understanding your problems.

Talking to her might help you work through your thoughts and become more comfortable with yourself. Which in turn might help ease part of your problems such as feeling guilty and secretive which can't be helping and may be causing more harm.

See a doctor and find out what is going on instead of speculating.

Good luck.

I'm troubled by this advertisement for Enzute which has been proven to be a scam, helpful only if the user BELIEVES it's helpful.

I think the problem - if this product works - is in the mind of the OP. He only is interested and performs when he takes a medication which does nothing.
I think a frank talk with the girlfriend and an examination by a Physician (and possibly some counselling) are in order.

I don't find enjoying musicals, singing and dancing to be "gay," if that counts.

Is she angry with you a lot? That is a total killer in libido for an emotionally open male.

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Originally Posted by mathewcostin

Is she angry with you a lot? That is a total killer in libido for an emotionally open male.

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He said he's had a low sex drive his entire life. Of course, I suppose it's possible a number of females have been angry with him - but I doubt it.

I think a physical exam is in order.