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  • Nov 15, 2011, 06:49 AM
    yourrmuse
    Please help me...
    I have this problem regarding about my boyfriend. Well we have been together for 3 years. I believe everyone has flaws and I believe everyone is not perfect perhaps everyone makes mistakes too. When we first met I was actually a very wild person who works in a club as a waitress. I get to know many guys yes I was a bad person. I started to become wild when I broke off with my last ex, I didn't expect a very shocking break up,that when I started to work in a club and know more guys to avoid thinking of him. After 3 months I started to know this guy which is now my boyfriend well yes the first few month our relationship was amazing, BUT I did told him before he entered my life, whether he really want to be with me cause I say to him that I have a lot of guys friends in my contact and I told him to give me sometimes to delete every guys that I know he say he OK with it.

    So after 8 months together things started to turn out ugly. He asked me to delete my face book because he say everyone seem to know me. Yes I did mistakes I contact with my 6 years crush date because he always been there for me no matter what the situation looks like. And I found out my boyfriend still contact with his ex, My boyfriend start to create fake account and chat with his ex knowing few girls, going out without telling me.

    How do I know? Because photo prove me. His phone he forgot to log out his email which is his fake email address. Then he say a lot of things to me, saying I did mistakes too. He wanted me to change and yes I've change slowly I try so hard to change for him just because I was afraid of losing him. We have been through so much I wouldn't want to let it go just like that.

    When a bit of misunderstanding turns out to be a big arguments and that when he treat me so bad calling me whore, *****, slut calling my parents a ***** and stuff but still I keep running back to him.

    Recently, a guy called my phone early in the morning which is my brother friend. He was looking for my brother, I swear I reject every guy that wanted to know me but they keep running back to me. My boyfriend won't believe me he say I am forever a liar, a slut his ex is way much better then me, I'm not human his ex is human because his ex didn't lie his ex was his true love. It hurts me badly listening all the words he say. I gave him everything, I did abortion once it was his.

    I was so sad that he still keep treat me like this. When he run out of cash I give him.. Right now he being so rude message me like I'm not his girlfriend.I keep holding on because I believe that one day he will change and I give him chances.. But after what he say saying I'm a cheap whore, A slut, A liar lots of verbally abusive words to me saying his ex was true love, I couldn't sleep. I was so hopeless. I got no one else :.( This is the story of me and him for 3 years

    PS:I will never find the right man to comfort me in my life..
  • Nov 15, 2011, 02:54 PM
    talaniman
    Quote:

    I will never find the right man to comfort me in my life..
    Not as long as you still allow this loser back in your life.

    Stay away from him and things will get better.
  • Nov 16, 2011, 05:44 PM
    mmresd
    "PS:I will never find the right man to comfort me in my life.."

    That will be true until you let this guy go and start fresh.

    Normally and unexplainably, couples who commit an abortion end up not being together and actually breaking up and treating each other like in this way. Killing a child is not something you do for anyone, not even yourself and the error needs to be admitted for you to heal from it, normally it requires severe counceling for it as well.

    You need to break up with this guy and start taking care of yourself, stop the torture and put your foot down. Don't confuse love for foolish actions. Go no contact and start doing your life again, you don't need someone in your life that disrespects you in that way.
  • Nov 26, 2011, 07:25 PM
    PandabearsRock
    Let the stupid guy go, you don't deseve way better then that, I promise you once u let go of him, you will find a better guy that will treat you with respect!!
  • Nov 27, 2011, 05:45 AM
    geminichick
    I can answer this question with complete conviction because I was in this situation. This guy is controlling and calling you names like "slut" is called verbal abuse. You are not a bad person. You should not have to break off any contact with guy friends because of any insecurities he may have. None of this is your fault. This guy sounds like a narcissist. The right thing to do is leave him. It is a really hard thing to do. Verbal and financial abuse plays a really big toll on your emotional and physical well being. Things can escalate and get worse. YOU need a support system around you to help you. Trusted family and a women's resources center in your area. You are no doormat for any man. YOu deserve much better than him. It will come to the point that you will loose touch with who you really are. Don't let this happen to you like it did me. The right guy is out there. Someone who will appreciate and love you. You will need time to heal. Don't allow this guy to victimize you anymore. Be a survivor and show him the real woman you are. The woman that will not tolerate being abused and take your power back. My best of luck to you.
  • Dec 1, 2011, 11:43 PM
    yourrmuse
    Thank you guys,thank you so much,. But the only problem with me that I can't let him go.. my heart keep saying give him chance.. I just don't know..

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