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  • Nov 13, 2011, 11:43 AM
    QueenAdelynn
    Why did he dump me?
    Our relationship was amazing. We went through so much together. He saved me from my abusive dad and let me stay with him until I found a new home. He would say I am beautiful and only I can make him feel attracted. We did all those things that only happen in movies like listening to his heartbeat, lying on his roof and staring at the stars, being carried princess. He was a gentleman at heart who respected me. He couldn't stay being away from me for even a day and all of a sudden he came to me with exhausted eyes and unshaved.

    His jaw was very tense and he kept clenching his fists. By this point, I knew something was very wrong. Then he said we had to break up. "You're great I really like you and all but I have issues I need to take care of right now."

    I felt like he punched my stomach. Just 2 days ago he was excited for the plans we had for thanksgiving. I don't understand how he changed in just 2 days. Does he really have issues or have I done something wrong? Because I am so lost right now. He asked if I wanted to be friends or if I never wanted to see him again. I told him I was worried for him and wished his issues would be solved soon. I also said I was OK with being his friend. I want to be there despite my pain and frustration because I care.

    Anyway, is there a chance of us ever getting back? Or am I hanging on to a guy who's too nice to tell me he no longer wants me?
  • Nov 13, 2011, 12:38 PM
    tickle
    Doesn't 'sound' like he doesn't want youQueen, but more like he needs an understanding friend and a good shoulder to lean on. Just take care of him and don't give up.
  • Nov 13, 2011, 02:08 PM
    richardsal
    Maybe you should do some background checks on him. It's kind of weird that he'd change all of a sudden like that for no reason. You also said he appeared stressed out. You never know someone really. Do some investigating see what you come up with. Good Luck.
  • Nov 13, 2011, 11:39 PM
    talaniman
    Maybe he does have issues and if he doesn't share them with you then not much you can do. Maybe you will discover what it is, but until then, be grateful for what he has done, get over your shock, and respect his wishes. You two would be lousy friends at this time though, because you still have deep feelings and high hopes, as well as a lot of confusion and fears so please be honest with him, and tell him that you will need time to adjust to this big changes that came out of the blue, rather suddenly.

    Obviously he has something that you just don't know about going on in his life, and it could well be he is letting you down as gently as possible.
  • Dec 9, 2011, 02:47 PM
    QueenAdelynn
    We got back together :D He really did have issues after all. Thanks for all the answers!

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