Ask Me Help Desk - Does She Still Like Me?

All right so me and my ex were dating for about 7 months and then we broke up.. . When we broke up we really didn't talk that much but the last month or 2 we have been talking for hours on the phone everyday.. . I never call her she always calls me.. . I told her I was going to a party last weekend and she was like no please don't go just stay at one of your friends houses she wouldn't tell me why.. . I told her I got my car back a couple days ago and she started to cry about all the memories we had in it.. . She's been asking me to pick her up from school but yet she has a boyfriend.. . She wanted to hang out last weekend but we didn't.. . And today I was at a friends house and she was in the back seat of a truck dropping someone off and when they were parked I went up to say hi to some homies that were in the truck I didn't even notice she was there until I looked up and she was just staring at me.. . She tells my friends I'm fun to talk to and stuff.. . but she swears she doesn't like me anymore.. . and this wasn't no stupid child relationship we had a few pregnancy scares our familys were close she would spend the night her mom would call me to eat dinner stuff like that.. . So what do you think does she still like me or what's up and if she does why won't she admit it.. . She also knows I still like her and that I would get back with her I'm wondering if that plays a roll in anything so what do you guys think I should do thank you

I think you should just continue being her friend. Nothing else. She has a boyfriend now so I would not even bother. If you do, it is probably going to turn out to be one of those scenes where there are two guys and the girl is torn between the two. You do not want that do you?
Keep cool, do not change your lifestyle or you going out with friends because she does not want you too. Who cares about all the begging and stuff, if you listen to it your setting yourself up for a fall.

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Joe

Keep living your life as she may have a hard time seeing you happy without her, but you do have a right to do as you please. She has a boyfriend so why she has to be all in your business and calling every day is not a good sign. I think you should back off the contact some and not be so available and stick with being friends. Does her new b/f know how much she talks to her ex(you) and do you know how he feels about it?

Well actually she recently broke up with her boyfriend but there still hooking up n stuff.. . The question I'm really trying to get at here is if you guys thinks she still has feelings for me.. . I don't listen to her when she says all that stuff about she wants me to stay home she doesn't have control over me like that.. . But when I don't listen to her she gets upset.. . Actually I couple nights ago her boyfriend and her were in a fight and he kept calling on the other line and she would be like mike just a sec my boyfriend is calling and I would like like na I don't feel like sitting her and waiting then she would be like 2 sec I promise and then she would be like I looooveeeee you please just stay on the line and I did and she was back in like 2 sec =D so I'm just trying to find out if you guys think she still has feelings for me or with us talking all the time she's starting to gain them back or something

Sounds like you both are on the hook, honestly and I hope you don't go overboard till you find out for sure what's really going on. She has feelings for you both and that's obvious. Not a sutuation I would like to be in so maybe disappear or be unavailable. My gut says not good back off .

It sounds to me like you don't want it to be over, and she knows that so she is playing you so she can have her cake and eat it too. I agree with Tal on this one. Back off... get perspective on your own life before trying again with her

Could she be using you to make him jealous? Could she be using him to make you jealous? Too much unknown drama for me.

Yea I'm just wondering cause I wasant sure if she still had feelings for me or not anymore.. . All my friends tell me its obvious she does cause she calls me all the time and sometimes ill even ignore the calls 20 times in a row and she will keep calling till I pick up.. . And if I don't she will leave a angry voice mail.. . And she asks me to pick her up from school and all that good stuff.. . And to chill.. . Do you guys agree with me when I say that she def still has feelings for unless she wouldn't we wasting her time calling me 24/7 and asking to chill and all that??

WHY are you on the phone with her so much? YUCK. Guys should never be on the phone with a gal for hours. Kills relationships. Be busy. Long conversations are for in person only. 5 minutes atmost - got to go - busy.

Hate to say this but she has a boyfriend - are you are in her friend zone - extremely hard to get out of.

I'd just stop all contact with her for a few months - be busy doing other stuff.

Over communication not in person - kills relationships. I say this over nad over here.

In the old days, one's intentions were questioned with the kind of ambivilency she is exhibiting and for the express purpose of preventing someone from getting hurt. It sounds like she is either very confused in her feelings or playing you both as a fickle female -- hard to say which from here.

Is she entitled to date you both, or express interest in you both? I think yes! Nothing says it can only be one at a time (even if that is much much simpler). But holy cow, someone ought to have taught her how to keep one totally separate from the other. That's just asking for trouble. And to press that further, he isn't your business and you aren't his while she is a free agent.

If you need her to be exclusive with you, then tell her that. If you don't need to hear about him from her (if you are), then tell her that too. Otherwise, stay out of the part of her business that isn't your business and you'll all fare better, especially you. I know that is a tall order but you let yourself in for some of this accepting the lines being blurred and putting up with some of her crap. I realise you did that hoping it would fall in your favor but it comes with these very consequences too. Now you know. And you are beginning to see why ex's make poor friendships and when its over, everyone ought to go their separate ways.

Shoot, you could always resort to asking her what her intentions are. What was once old-fashioned is perhaps modern again?

No time like the present to begin forming a marvelous habit of clear communications-- the backbone of all good relationships, I always say!

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and if I don't she will leave a angry voice mail ... . And she asks me to pick her up from school and all that good stuff.. . And to chill.. .

Angry voice mails oh heck no, That's about my limit and in my opinion she has stepped over the line and she has got to go... ASAP. If someone can't respect me with out acting like a lunatic or a control freak ADIOS, Just me and I admit to being............stubborn but not stupid.