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  • Nov 9, 2011, 04:48 AM
    Martti
    She needs a break in a long distance relationship
    Well basically she has just informed to that she has lost her feelings for me and sees no future together.. She just started a very stressful job and Ii have my own problems too..

    I got to somehow convince her on taking a break from me for a week and the big day is coming soon.. This is a no contact break and absolutely driving me crazy. I would do anything for her and currently am working my *** off SO I can get to her.. I'm really afraid that this is just her way of breaking up with me but I don't know what to expect.. She did say it's a tough decision and that she needs to think..

    So I don't know what can I expect and more importantly what can I do to save this relationship? I feel like I have tried everything..
  • Nov 9, 2011, 11:07 AM
    talaniman
    You probably have tried everything you could think of, and you are probably right, this is her way of breaking up with you.

    Now you want to see her face to face to beg, and be rejected. The thing is guy, if she is unwilling to hep you save this relationship, and it doesn't sound like it, then you have no choice but to do as she asked of you, and leave her alone.

    I know, not what you want to hear, no one does, but I am sure you want to leave her with an impression of dignity, not a whiny crying mess, and if she changes her mind, you want it to be her decision because that's what she wants, and not because you cried and begged.

    Leave her alone and get yourself under control, and don't give in to the desperation you feel, and do something that throws your own dignity and self respect completely out the window.

    For sure this will suck, all break ups do. No way to avoid it, but you can handle it with class, and dignity, and self respect.
  • Nov 14, 2011, 11:20 PM
    Drama_D
    I know exactly what you are going through, it could be the be the best thing for you though. I had it happen to me while she was pregnant with my kid and even though I don't see the kid I'm happier now than when I was with her. Nobody wants to be alone and I think that is why we get down about these situations so much. Take the break and see what happens is my best advice, go through with the no contact thing and if she wants to leave it may be best to let her go. Long distance relationships are the hardest to keep and usually end with one heart broken, I would rather it be someone else's than mine if I was in that situation again.
  • Nov 28, 2011, 06:47 PM
    Meme.net
    Ok, I was in a long distance relationship too. And I tried to do a 1 week no contact break, but neither I nor my boyfriend (at the time) could do it because we felt like we needed to talk to each other. Defiantly do the 1 week, NO CONTACT. Show her you can live without talking to her for a week. She'll realize how much life sucks without you, and she'll come back to you. She still has feelings for you, but give her time so you don't lose each other.

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