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  • Nov 8, 2011, 10:51 AM
    screwedstepmom
    HELP! 25 year old step daughter drama!
    She wants to move in my house with her 2 year old son. She is going through a divorce (she cheated on a wonderful man) and she is getting kicked out of her Mothers house. The girl has no respect for me or her father (my husband) and we have had fights in the past where the two of them do not speak for months. She has borrowed money from us and now she wants to move in my house! Im so stressed... Im arguing with my husband (who is clearly torn with this decision). What can we do? He leaves for a military deployment in a month and ill be here with her while he is overseas... AAARRRGGGGHHHHHH!
  • Nov 8, 2011, 10:57 AM
    Wondergirl
    If her own mother is kicking her out and you'll be alone with her (and she's not your BFF), set boundaries. You want to say no, so say no. No discussion. If it helps, tell 'em Wondergirl supports you in your decision.
  • Nov 8, 2011, 01:10 PM
    JudyKayTee
    I agree with WG - if, in fact, it's YOUR house then YOU get to make the rules. I have stepchildren. I wouldn't want to think of my step Grandchildren as homeless. It's a hard call.

    If she's a problem I would not let her in because getting her out is going to be a worse problem - assuming you're still relatively sane when you want her out.
  • Dec 1, 2011, 03:49 PM
    jenniepepsi
    I would say no no no no no freaking way!

    Offer to help baby sit your grand child and watch over him while she works. Help her find work.
    But she doesn't need to move in with you. She is an adult and needs to find her way in the world

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