Hi there,

Me and my girlfriend are both 22 and have been together now for 4 months. We were getting along great until I got drunk a few times and started an argument for no reason. This scared her a bit which is understandable so she said she wanted some space. I gave her this space and last Friday she texted saying that can we start a fresh and that things will be better now. I agreed with this.

Saturday she texted me saying that she misses me and Sunday we met up for a few drinks with friends.
We had a great day Sunday and Monday morning all was fine when she left to go home. Then she starts saying that she doesn't know if she wants us Monday night and that she needs time to think again. I don't know what is going on as I was OK to start a fresh.
I don't know what to do, do I not contact her first? And reply to her texts calmly. Or should I ignore this girl for a few days and let her dwell on it? OR do I stand my ground and say I'm not putting up with this as at the moment I'm getting a horrible feeling that I'm being played.
I just really don't know what to do, I'm usually the type to say thanks for nothing and see you but with this girl I'm sat here wanting her.

Maybe you go back to your old type, or give her what she asked for and go about your business, and do your own thing while she figures herself out.

I would suggest to give her time to calm down about what happened, you probably roughed her up badly and she is still having a minor trauma, let her calm down and talk to her about where this is going. If after a couple weeks she still seems undecided, then end the relationship and move on, there is nothing more stressful than being in a relationship with a kid that doesn't know what she wants.

I haven't texted her for the past day and a half. And I haven't heard anything from her either. Should I stick to no contact? Is this the best way to go about it? What should I text her when I text her about things and when should I do it? Just confused and want to play this one right as I have normally just got on with it and left other girls behind. I really appreciate the help.

Or do I play it by having no contact until she contacts me first? And go about thinking if she really still wants the relationship she will contact me?