Hi all,

I fought with my boyfriend last weekend. He was telling me how tired he was of meeting me almost everyday and how pressurised he was when he couldn't fulfill a promise he made to me previously.

I didn't know I was so pressurising and little did I know he was so stressed up. So I told him to leave. It seemed logical to me at that point that I'm not good enough for him and he deserved someone so much better.

But after calming down I realised that I've done wrong and I tried to make it up to him. I texted him and he didn't reply. I drove all the way down to his place in hope that we can talk face to face. But he chased me away. I was really hurt by that.

Two days later he apologised for being nasty the other day. And we made up. Not to the extent like before but at least none of us is letting go.

He wasn't really very responsive to intimacy. I'd tell him that I love him and he'd just reply with a "oh." I felt insecure and I told him yesterday that I felt insecure. He got so frustrated at me and told me that he's tired of my negative thoughts etc etc.

Sigh. I'm so confused. I know it's my fault for screwing up but I don't know I I should take his hostility towards me.

I don't know what I can do to make him love me again. He was really very nice to me and I believed he was the one. Now, I'm not so sure if we can spend our lives together anymore.

He doesn't make the effort anymore. :'(

Any tips of making up anyone? Thanks. :)

It's quite crucial in relationships that we keep as much insecurity and paranoia to ourselves. Otherwise, the other half can feel they have a lot more responsibility, like they have to 'fix you'.

It's BOTH your fault. An argument is both ways, for the most part. What did he apologise for? And you can't MAKE someone love you, I'm afraid. If I were you, I'd give him some space. You both need times to be individuals, go out with friends, work/school etc.

X Dani

Stop trying so hard to make him love you. You cannot. Either he does or he doesn't, and if you two cannot talk and work on things, what's the point?

Hi,
I don't know anything about his personality but it seems like it's a matter of priority. A relationship may be pressurizing but there are better ways to deal with it. If you were acting as usual and he started to moan about it now, there may be another problem. Don't be alarmed, it's possibly an issue about his social life, school, business or something like that. Try to understand him, not only by words but also by your attitudes. Give him some time and try not to complain. Any problem can be solved by time -say a month-. Stand by him, if he keeps on rejecting you then you can make a decision.

You're a nice person and trying to find a solution right? So don't let him make you feel like you brought a burden into his life. Just stay cool, maybe he wants more free time and it will carry your relationship on a maturer level.

If he keeps on blaming you after all your effort to stay away (which is hard when you love someone) then you should face him calmly and let him know that you may go on your life without him. (for good)

While being nice and understanding, read his reactions, don't be paranoid but try to read every signal so you'll have enough data when you need to make a decision about your relationship.

Take care and loves.

Hey, I really feel for you. But there are things that can help. If you are sure you want to get back with him you can. Last year me and my girlfriend had stupidly broken up. I got really worried and was, just like you, searching all over the internet for answers. I found this one gals website and she reviewed a system to getting your ex back. It actually worked. It was the ExRecovery systems. It worked magic for me. Go to that link down there and you can read her reviews. It really helped me feel better each and everyday and stop the fighting.

Anyway, good luck to you. And cheer up! The future holds good things!

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