I have been with my boyfriend a little over a year. In the beginning, sex was all the time & great. Two months into our relationship, he was hurt on the job and was on pain pills which he started abusing. I overlooked the lack of sex then because of his injury and the pills.

He is an alcoholic and smokes weed occasionally, so I know these are both factors... but I'm beating myself up thinking I don't turn him on or he's not into me anymore. Of course, he says its not me. We argue & fight about it when I try to talk to him -- that it's not as important to him, that he's tired, stressed, all the excuses.

I'm 43 and want/need this intimacy from him on a regular basis. I love him to death and for the most part he is a good guy, but right now I'm miserable and feel like I can't talk to him. HELP!