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  • Oct 30, 2011, 07:36 PM
    dhk2020
    Is it haram to marry someone without the approval of your parents?
    What if the person is muslim? What if the person is a converted muslim? What if the only reason your parents disagree is because they didn't organize it themselves? What if the only reason your parents disagree is because the person is a muslim of another race?
  • Oct 30, 2011, 07:54 PM
    Fr_Chuck
    There is no race requirement is there ?
  • Oct 30, 2011, 07:58 PM
    mymumbai
    The reason behind that is that your paraents wnt you to live happily and prosperously. Parents knows that relation with muslim gives you temp. happiness not permanent.
  • Oct 30, 2011, 08:53 PM
    jenniepepsi
    Salam!

    I would like to ask where you live and what your culture is (are you arabic, hindi, american, african, pakistinian, etc, this makes a difference!) and the culture and place of residence of your parents.

    Allah does not see colors, nor race. In Islam, there is not race issue.

    If the parents are against it, that is THEM. Not Islam.

    I suggest seeking out your Imam, and get advice from him. Especially if your parents are willing to go with you.

    Are your parents Muslim? Or are you a revert and they are not?
  • Oct 31, 2011, 05:22 PM
    dhk2020
    I am muslim. My parents want me to marry a boy of the same class, creed, and religion. I don't agree. I live in in NYC and I am of Sylheti Bengali descent. So far, only men in my family have married outside their race. Even though their wives have converted, my parents and the entire Sylheti Bengali community trash talk about them behind their backs by saying: oh the relationship won't last or they will burn in hell (even though these people have been married for like 15+ years and have children). They say it is completely unacceptable for me to marry out of love or of my choosing. I don't want to marry an illiterate villager. So is it haram to marry someone without your parents approval? I need to know.
  • May 7, 2012, 09:58 PM
    Moniza Sheriff
    According to Islam a girl who is matured both mentally and physically can marry a muslim man (both converted and by blood) without her parents approval. It means if you are a muslim and already got your period and of sound mind and your guy is a muslim, passed the puberty stage and of sound mind: YOU CAN GET MARRIED. All you have to do to get married is 3 things: set a mahr (den mohor/a gift to the bride from the groom), 2 adult witnesses(2 males or you can substitute 2 females for a male, so four females), and with Allah as your witness take each other as husband and wife. Since you are in NYC, get a marriage license, wait 3 days, pick your witnesses, get an officiant to get you married. I hope this helps even though I replied so late.
  • Feb 22, 2013, 02:56 PM
    sherenne
    I never knew theis before and I actually kindda like it. Which means that I can marry the one I want without letting my parents know
  • Feb 23, 2013, 09:53 AM
    afaroo
    Hello Sherenne,

    First of all you responded to an old thread always check the date on top left corner of the post.

    To respond to you question please open the link below it may give you some idea, Thanks.

    Marriage without parents permission - Islam web - English

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