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  • Oct 30, 2011, 06:13 PM
    Blingblong20
    Am I wasting my time on this man?
    We've been friends for almost 2 years and had issues, argued, and split up a ton of times as though we were dating. Yet every time we broke up, he would still take me back (as friendship). This time, I just feel that it's completely different. I had a very interesting night a few days ago where I was in danger. And I texted him in the middle of the night. We had had an argument that night. He texts me back confused saying, didn't we just argue? And then he just wanted to make sure at the end that, I was all right. He stayed through half the night till I fell asleep (such a gentleman).

    So we're now talking again, like a thousand times. I am a cosmetologist, and I want to change my profession to law enforcement to become a police officer. I told him that, and his reply was "do whatever you want to do."

    I thought for a second, he was like upset, mad or something, so I just jokingly (knowing how he would respond) said, "man, that was cold." And he says, "not really. If that's what you want to do, I support you all the way."

    I just think this time it's very different. I feel something different about him. A man wouldn't take someone back so many times. Obviously, to him it means something. Yet he says he's not ready for a serious relationship. But he took me back at every time in a heartbeat (vice versa). I just think that things are different. We are getting closer. And crazy of me to say, I trust him and feel as though I have that special connection with him. Can't describe it.

    Am I just wasting my time on this man who doesn't want a full relationship, or is there something boiling that might happen? I just keep on coming back to him. He pulls me in like a vampire.
  • Nov 3, 2011, 04:02 PM
    talaniman
    I think its your hoping for something more that allows you to be pulled in by him. Yes you are wasting your time since he hasn't made a move so he sees just friends. That's all.
  • Nov 21, 2011, 05:28 PM
    Rawrflee
    I don't quite understand what your relationship is with this man. You seem to have romantic feelings for him
    But have given no indication of his possible feelings for you. Is there a sexual side to the relationship? He's probably just seeing that but really I don't know with such little info.

    If that's all the info there is then yes you are probably wasting your time hoping for any romantic connection.

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