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  • Oct 30, 2011, 02:46 PM
    shanemalhotra
    A gay marrying a gal without telling her he is a gay
    This happened a in India, where a NRI married their GAY son with an innocent girl who didn't know that guy is a gay. After the arrange marriage Guy started behaving badly with the Girl and told her that he is a GAY. Her marriage was not registered and both parties agreed to nullify the marriage.

    Now it happens to be the case where I started talking to that girl for marriage and after 2 weeks she told me that this happened 7 years back. I really like her and in love with her. I am not sure what the earlier marriage meant. If I marry her, would it be considered as second marriage? I am highly confused. Please advise
  • Oct 30, 2011, 03:36 PM
    Fr_Chuck
    Why does it matter ?
  • Nov 6, 2011, 09:29 PM
    ITgeek
    Legally it would not be a second marriage. Yeah she had a wedding but clearly that wasn't a marriage. She was just being honest and upfront with you, very admirable quality. If you love her why are you worrying about something that wasn't her fault?
  • Jul 2, 2012, 10:15 AM
    msdebdardx4
    This question is difficult to answer because I would need to establish a cultural/social context for the question. Also it would be important to know why it would matter if this is indeed a second marriage. I know India has different marriage customs from America. Maybe in India it would matter about the second marriage, but in the USA it would not matter. So inorder for me to give a thoughtful answer, I would need to know the cultural significance of a second marriage, as well as the definition of NRI. Also was the marriage consummated?
  • Jul 2, 2012, 10:19 AM
    msdebdardx4
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ITgeek View Post
    Legally it would not be a second marriage. Yeah she had a wedding but clearly that wasnt a marriage. She was just being honest and upfront with you, very admirable quality. If you love her why are you worrying about something that wasnt her fault??

    Are you sure this would not be considered a second marriage? What are the laws and customs in India regarding such a thing? I do hope this man and woman can be together if it is God's will and they truly love each other. However, we cannot negate the siginificance of the legal and social restraints. But I do not know what those retraints would be - if any, so I cannot speak to the subject.
  • Jul 3, 2012, 05:52 AM
    joypulv
    I'm with msdebdardx4 on this. Also, what is NRI?
    Wouldn't the parents of the girl be interested in a lawsuit or some sort of religious sanction against the parents of the boy? We don't know what religion it is... is there a Hindu (if Hindu) way to annul a marriage that wasn't consummated?

    Hopefully some answers about all that will provide some answers about how you can view this as a first or second marriage, if that is important to you.

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