I've lost respect for my husband.
I was having a heart-to-heart with my mum when some of 'my feelings' and 'my reality' made my mom cry. As the conversation continued, she called my feelings 'academic' (I am a counsellor). This really hurt me, and I stormed off to my bedroom in tears.
I was in my room explaining to my 17-year-old daughter what had happened when my husband walked in and started to have a go at me about the conversation I had been having with my mom (even though he has seen me back down to her emotional blackmail a thousand times in the last 12 years). I was so hurt that he had taken sides with her, when it has taken me 38 years to be truthful with her, that I told him to f off and pushed him to get him out of the bedroom.
His response was to slap me hard across the face (the bruise lasted 3 days). When he slapped me, my instinct was to fight back, and he squared up to me with his fists clenched. He stopped only when my daughter started to scream for us to stop fighting.
I feel so hurt by his words and actions, hurt that he sided with my mom because the conversation made him 'uncomfortable.' He didn't even realise or know my mom had initiated conversation 3 days earlier and had asked me to be open and honest with my feelings. And then he slapped me. I didn't hit him, but pushed him to get him out of the room, I didn't want to look at him or talk to him.
He hadn't walled in to ask if I was OK, but went straight into defending my mom. I've lost respect for him on so many levels, I don't know what to do. We have been together 12 years, married for 10 years, and he has never slapped me before or squared up to me in an argument.
He apologised for slapping me but insists it was a reaction to me hitting him (even though my daughter told him I had 'pushed' him). He is justifying hitting me first and says it was an instinctive reaction due to circumstances, but had he not got involved in a conversation he didn't fully comprehend in the beginning, none of this would have happened.
Argh, I'm still angry about it. He will NOT talk about the incident. I have tried three times, and it happened only five days ago. I really don't respect him at all at the moment and feel angry, confused, disgusted.
Any feedback welcomed.