I ask him for a break, but he didn't give it to me. Now he is asking me for a break?
Ok so my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years already. I love him so much. I wanted a break around may so I can get some stress out of me since I was about to graduate from high school and had work everyday after school. He never gave me a break, he always look for me and came to my house, my job & begging to take him back because he love me and he couldn't live with out me. I took him because I loved him.
I graduated and was only working for the summer, the summer was only for us two most of the time. He never really like double dating or going out with a group of friends, he said he only liked us two only. So I put him first in everything! Time passed and things were good we were happy, but we started to argue for the littlest things!Again I ask him for a break so we can stop arguing. I look for him a week later, text/call! No response. I found out he was going out dancing & drinking. I was like what the heck?
So then I kept looking for him and he said he got tired of me asking for break. I wanted my break and I was getting it, I explain to him that I wanted the break but I was the one coming back to him a week later but he wasn't taking me back. He is telling me that I should have never asked for that break because that messed things up between us two.
Now he is smoking weed, selling weed, drinking, getting tattoos, and failing in school. I don't know what to do? He tells me he loves me but not as much as before and he needs time, he is asking me to be friends but I said no because you can't be friends with the one you love, being around them and not being able to kiss them? He says my tears are not worth it to cry over him, to find someone else that will give me what I deserve. I told him not to tell me that because to me at this moment he is the most important person in my life and to me he is worth it.
I thought maybe its another girl? But we talk and no, he just said he doesn't want a relationship now. He is asking for space to try to be with his friends and do whatever he wants with out lying to me or having to check on me, and to try to focus on school. He doesn't have school support from no one not even his parents. I'm not going to lie but I feel like I am the only one that cares a lot for him and I try to not bring him down.
Now that he is asking me for a break he is telling me well you either take a break or a break up? I plan on begging him and fighting for what I love, just like he did. He never gave me up, he fought to not loose me, I feel like I need to fight for him so hard until I feel like I try hard enough.
But in the other hand I think that I should give him the space he is asking for... but I am so scare. I am scare that I will give him the space and that he will never come back to me. He says he will, and then he tells me there might be something in the future with us. But to me is like I ask for a break and it was one week, and you went crazyyy... what makes you think I will wait months or a year for you? I love him so much (secret: I would definitely wait for him! <3), but I don't know how long? I don't know if I should fight for his love or let him go?