My ex and I broke up over a year ago. We decided to take a break (since she was busy with work and school and I was busy with work). Unfortunately I was never able to move on. She has since been with 2 guys and is still with the 2nd one (has been for over 6 months now).

We had spoken about moving in together since we were together. She now wants me to move in with her AND her boyfriend and to be honest I love the idea of being able to see her everyday (this was a long distance relationship) but the idea of her boyfriend being around makes me a little jealous (I'm able to control this though. I have this long anyway.).

She knows that I still love her though she doesn't tell me if she still does. We both talk almost everyday when ever we get a chance even if we are at work. I found out she still has old pics of me on her cell and she still calls me by my nickname. I love her with all my heart and would do anything for her but I don't know what to think. She spends a lot of time and attention on me and has a lot of plans for us when I move in (hanging out, shopping, meeting her friends, etc).

I guess my question is (though I fear the worst) does she still have feelings for me?

I see one concern here, voidheart, does she want a live-in 3-some? If that is the case, unless you are cool with that arrangement, I would run the other way. And even if she doesn't have this idea, what about the intimacy between her and her new b/f with you living there. How do you think that is going to work out? Could be a living hell for you if you still care for her. If I were you I would save my santiy and just say NO, she may respect you more and think twice about how she feels about you if you stand firm on the NO.

Tick

I agree with tickle. You have in a way answered your own question by mentioning 'jealously you can control, so far anyway.' How long will that control last? Please answer below. Think about being in the house together... dinner... TV... then what?? Do you lie alone in your bed trying to not imagine what is going on in their room? She wants her cake and her cupcake too, not to mention maybe someone to foot the bill.

Threesome or not threesome I don't see the benefit for anyone in this situation AND I see you opening yourself up to a world of hurt.

No definitely not... three is a crowd.
Why does she want you to move in anyway? She has a live in boyfriend.What does he think of this I wonder!
Seems to me she's playing with you,don't let this happen you will be the one who gets hurt in the end.

She either wants her boyfriend of 6 months or she wants you,there is no half way measures on this.
Leave them alone to sort out their own relationship,don't be party to any break up that may happen.
Carry on with your own life, leave them to theirs,wait and see what transpires.

Hi about two years ago my now ex girlfriend left me saying we needed a break. You see it was a long distance relationship and we used to speak to each other every day. But we both started working and she was in college and she felt that she was neglecting me and thought we should take a break. I didn't want this but then realized it was probably for the best. We loved each other very much and everything in the relationship was going great and I feared that she would move on... needless to say my fears became a reality. She got with another guy that treated her bad, left him and is now with someone else. All this time I've remained single. I've tried to move on but haven't been able to.

Back when her and I where together we spoke about moving in together... well you see a year later I did move in with her. I currently live with her and her current boyfriend. I am still very much in love with her and she has told me that she still has feelings for me too and that if they weren't together that her and I would get together. She also told me that she really thinks that her and I would work out and that the reason we broke up was distance related.

A week after I moved in with her we were in my room playing games when she kissed me. We kissed multiple times that night and the night before there was a bit of sexual activity (not intercourse but I won't go into the details). I'll admit her boyfriend is a nice guy but I'm insanely jealous and he doesn't seem to realize it. I've been living with them for a while now but the I constantly have to see them be all coupley together and I've heard them have sex multiple times. Due to all this I have slashed at my arms, torso and face with knives and have had suicidal thoughts. Also I'm starting to become enraged with jealousy and It's starting to effect my over all personality. I'm trying to hide this from her and him to avoid conflict but I honestly feel like I'm slipping into insanity. I'm starting to become very cold hearted and quiet but I can't seem to stop loving her.

Everyone I know tells me to leave but I can't since her and her boyfriend can't afford the rent without my contribution. I don't know what to do. Is there any way for me to get rid of all this hatred I feel before it takes over? Is there any chance I will ever get her back? I'm so confused.

If you are cutting you need professional intervention.

She know you love her but she continues to have sex with her boyfriend, sex you can hear? She is basically torturing you.

You know what you need to do - leave. You knew it wasn't a good idea to move in when you moved in - https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/emotio...er-606122.html

A chance you'll get her back? I don't know. If you do, will she stay? I doubt it. She isn't very nice to you now. That isn't going to change.

You are being so USED. You are letting yourself be used. She is being unfair to you, knowing full well how much you are in love with her, yet she uses you for rent and teases you with little come ons, probably for rent and probably for just the fun of having two guys wanting her.
You are so wrapped up in this it is bound to lead to something awful if you don't get out NOW. Who CARES if they can't pay the rent - there's plenty of other people who need a room! LEAVE. L-E-A-V-E. Step outside of yourself for one minute and look back at yourself, scarring your skin, hating yourself (you say the guy, but it's not his fault), and doing nothing at all remotely admirable, not even paying rent is admirable. You need to regain some self respect FAST by LEAVING NOW, walk out the door, take all your things, don't look back, don't take a single phone call, text, Facebook, or email. Don't say where you will be. LEAVE.

Remove yourself from this situation PERMANENTLY!

Remove yourself from her life PERMANENTLY!

You ignored the original advice and your own common sense and further endangered yourself by listening to the words of a lying cheater who dumped you before, and not only continued to see her, moved in with her and a boyfriend? Remove yourself from this situation all together, and get some help and guidance to get back on a secure healthy path.

You were seduced by a snake, and unless you run away and hide, this will get much worse.

RUN NOW!! Like you should have done before. Only you can stop yourself from being sucked deeper into HELL!!