Or, perfect example, try to brush his shoulder or cheek and he pulls away and says, "I don't like to be touched a lot"? How about a fiancé who has never taken you on a date, not even for a walk in a park? Or a fiancé who's idea of foreplay now is 2 minutes hugging, "making love" for 3 minutes, before he rolls over on his side of the bed for another month or two? Or the fiancé who gets irritated because I couldn't wait another month for asthma medication (and I'm sure you asthma sufferers know the joys of feeling like your being suffocated every night)?

I could go on, but I may be moved to be moving on. I love my fiancé, but I refuse to be abused. Neglect is abuse too. I used to care about what I looked like, I wasn't in debt, I was hopeful. He says he has always been like this. His ex wife complained he never wanted to have sex. I can't live like this. Would it kill you to stroke my cheek once in a blue moon, hug me without request, tell me how beautiful I am to you?

He goes for drives at night. Says its because it helps him think when he's stuck on a project for work or has had a stressful day. Fine and dandy, but why on Tuesday and Thursday nights? I love him, but sometimes, I would rather be alone. I cry all the time now. I miss his touch. I feel like I don't matter to him. I feel that the only reason I'm here is to help him pay his bills and help raise his almost adult daughter. I don't care about money and status, although I know the importance. I just wanted someone to love and share my life with. I tend to be traditional about certain things, but I am very open minded, so why is it so hard to find a man who wishes for the same?

What drew you to him in the first place, gypsy? You received some other woman's cast off probably for the very same reasons you mentioned here.

Every woman deserves a caring loving partner and if you don't have that, then you are absolutely better off without him in your life.

I don't think there is any sense in saying 'counselling' because I don't think that would help him, and would he understand the concept anyway ?

Tick

Thank you. You are right. It is just so painful to leave, I fell in love with an illusion. I hope I have the strength to do it soon.

Its always painful, but think about your future.
Your happiness.

All you mentioned was pain.

You don't "need" anything.

Find the strength to discover what it is you want.

Again, why or what did he do to make you want him to start with ? Why did you move in with him if you never even dated ?

Also what happens or what does he say if you demaind some attention

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why is it so hard to find a man who wishes for the same?

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Because you are stuck on the wrong guy, and haven't dumped him to look for the right guy for you.

I wish gypsy many cuddles with the right guy

Tick

If you don't want to be in that position, then get out. If you don't want to be with someone who is like that, then find someone else. What's the point? He is not touchy feely like you and maybe he just does have secual appetite, but that is irrelevant. If you are with someone who is simply not fullfilling aspects of your life that are important to you, then you are not a match. Break up, start fresh, and find someone who actually gives a rat's about you.

Wow... he's a loser and you don't deserve that. I can't believe you have put up with that... You might think leaving will be painful, and I have to say that maybe at first it will be, but to stay with him will wind up hurting you way more in the long run.

He doesn't deserve you and you don't need him.

Good luck to you.