Hey everyone, this is kind of hard for me to get. I met a girl through a friend, at a party, she was great. We met again about a week later at the same place, and really hit it off. We started talking, a lot, started hanging out, a lot, all within about a weeks time. I found out that she soon won't have a place to live (her parents are crazy, and she's 18, I'm 23), so she had to go to Philadelphia with her sister. I offered to have her move in with me, so she did.

About 5 weeks later she starts working at this supermarket, about 5 days a week (30 hours about). Slowly but surely she becomes a little more distant, and withdrawn it would seem. I start getting suspicious, she starts talking about this guy at work who would always take the long way around the store, to go near her, but wouldn't talk to her (was too shy). A few days later he was talking to her, being really sweet. He starts giving her rides home when her work schedule puts her past the bus schedule, she comes home with a bottle of booze, her favorite, very expensive booze, late. He bought it for her. Then she tells me he's also going to buy her a dozen of her favorite roses, when I had roses preordered down at the local florist, I felt OK still. I give them to her, its great for a couple days. She becomes super distant.

I confront her about it and she says its nothing, even though she's been texting with this guy a LOT for the past couple weeks. Finally I confront her again, when she seems really, really weird and detached. She says she loves me but likes this other guy, and doesn't think it fair to her to date me while she likes someone else, even if its only a little bit. That I'm being 100% to her, while she's being only 90%.

They haven't done anything she says, not even kiss. I told her OK, well then if you love me and only like him, stop talking to him, block his number avoid him at work etc. She refused. I said fine, I won't kick you out even though we aren't together anymore. I said I'd let her decide who she wants to be with, until then she can stay with me. The moment she does anything with him or decides we're done for good, she's out. She still wanted to cuddle, kiss, and sleep in the same bed however.

So she went to work the next day, we only talked for about 5 minutes on the phone during her break, this was yesterday, I was very casual. She sounded upset, I said how's work? She said how do you think? I said this was your decision, it shouldn't make you feel nearly as bad as it does me. She said I know and sounded miserable!

When she got home she SPRINTED off the bus, through the door, and into my arms sobbing. "I don't want to leave, I'm not leaving". We made love shortly after. There is more that I can add but my mind is going through a lot of thoughts right now, please if you have any advice on how I should take this, it would be greatly appreciated!

I will pass over the insanity of having a (strange[er]) female move in after a few weeks, I think she was kind of playing you. She just wanted out of the house, and now she has to play nice, or be out.

Having said that, I hope she is pulling her share around YOUR place and have a financial agreement in place because as sure as she can jump in your bed, in your place, she can do this with anything that looks better.

For now she is with you, but you better keep your eyes open and pay attention, because that can change at any time. Maybe flowers didn't work, but a guy with a car available might. Pay attention guy, and don't be distracted by the good sex.

You are too young to be so involved and distracted at this time in your life.Are you in school? What are you doing about your future. What happens if she gets
Pregnant. YOu are playing a very dangerous game that will impact the rest of your life. This girl is immature and unstable and needy. Buy her a bus ticket for Philadelphia... see what happens in the next few months.