I met a girl 6 years ago who told me she was on the pill and she wasn't, she basically used me to get pregnant for money and benefits, as she has done to many others. She has 4 kids, 4 different fathers now, I've been paying child support since my child was born. I'm now remarried with 2 kids and can't even afford to pay this child support.
She never allowed me take my child, only visit the child at her home for 10 minutes just to get her money. I now pay through child support and do not see my child.
Recently I found out she has taken all her kids and moved to another state, do I still have to pay the same child support? Its not as if I can see her or share care.

Yes, you are still responsible to pay child support to the child you helped create.

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Originally Posted by dad1975

... Recently I found out she has taken all her kids and moved to another state, do I still have to pay the same child support? Its not as if I can see her or share care.

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Certainly.

Chilld support is never tied to whether you have visitation with the child. They are two entirely separate matters.

If you want to see the child, it's up to you to sue for visitiation. Your child's mother isn't going to do it for you. And now the clock is ticking. If the child lives in the other state for six months, you will have to sue for visitation in that state.

Full of excuses, you can not see or you did not see your child because you did not want to bad enough, If you wanted to see the child, you go to court and get a court order to visit. If you had done that, you may have even been able to stop her from moving. ( that that is not an option now)
But you can still file for visits for when you can arrange a trip to see the child.

Next of course you still owe and have to pay the child support.

As long as you live in the jurisdiction of the court that issued the support order that court has jurisdiction. If your circumstances have changed, you can apply to that court for a modification of the support order.

Fr Chuck I don't appreciate being judged.
For your information I DID see my child. Yes I wanted to bad enough, I cannot afford to spend money going through courts and if you knew the girl you would know how uncooperative she is.
She put a lot of things in my child's head and has done so to not only me but 3 others.
I have tried for 5 years, so don't tell me I'm making excuses.
I live in a tiny unit with my wife and 2 other kids and she is unwell and cannot work. After payong rent and buying nappies and food and gas for me to get to work I only haved enough left for this child support.. while she lives on benefits and keeps pumping out kids so she won't have to get off her butt and get a job.
Im sick of putting money in her pocket for alcohol and cigarettes.
My other 2 kids and wife miss out on a lot.
Thanks to everyone else for your advice, much appreciated

I also forgot to add that here in australia child support has everything to do with care of the child. If you do not see the child you pay maximum (like me). It is the mothers decision whether you can visit or not.
You can oppose through court but it takes time and money.
The reason she doesn't let any of the fathers see the kids is so she doesn't lose her child support.

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Originally Posted by dad1975

Fr Chuck i dont appreciate being judged.

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When you post on a site like this you are asking to be judged. It comes with the territory. Had you given more info in the beginning, you might have avoided some of that judgment.

The fact remains that, if there was a visitation order and she violated that order, especially moving out of the jurisdiction, you might have been able to get custody of your child which would end your support obligation.

Can't you win custody in court

[QUOTE=dad1975;2920578] It is the mothers decision whether you can visit or not. /QUOTE]

This is not true. Australia uses the best interests of the child doctrine. Generally courts will award the NCP reasonable visitation. And enforce it.