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  • Oct 16, 2011, 12:22 AM
    Danshalonda
    How can I be strong when I still do love him
    I have been with this guy for 6 years, he cheated on me from basically the first month after we started dating. He would do little sneaky things like lying about a myspace page under a different name, adding himself on dating profiles. When I would confront him he would say oh it's old he added it before we were together.

    I always knew he was lying but I was so desperate to be with him I didn't want to see the truth so eventually I would take him back. Once he was back the cycle would start again.

    A few days ago I caught him on another site and lost it I kicked him out. I want it to be for good because he's never going to change but I'm feeling so weak and I feel sick not to mention we have a dog together and he's very depressed also. I just feel lost and unable to go on.

    I desperately need some support I have no one to talk to about this and I spend my days closed off in my room with my dog. I just feel pathetic and almost want to run back to him. Thanks for helping me through this.
  • Oct 16, 2011, 01:09 PM
    talaniman
    Sorry for what you have been through, but it's a great thing you finally woke up, and stop being desperate, and used by this lying cheater. Better late than never.

    Its sucks to break up, but once the dust has settled you will realize you are free of the deception, and actually have many options, and opportunities to be happier than you could have imagined.

    You just have to suffer through some sad feelings and HEAL properly. YOU WILL. Just start to be good to yourself, and take the dog for a nice walk, and get some retail therapy, or a new doo, and start fresh.

    Smile like you got it going on my dear, because you do.
  • Oct 16, 2011, 01:34 PM
    friend4u178
    It's hard and you just need to get through the initial pain , unfortunately that's normal with break ups even though this will seem so bleak now.

    Believe me with a bit of time you'll look back at this and realize how lucky you were to get rid of this loser. There will be plenty of good happy times ahead.
  • Oct 16, 2011, 04:18 PM
    vanheart
    "he cheated on me from basically the first month"
    "I always knew he was lying but I was so desperate"
    "he's never going to change"

    Be glad that you kicked him out.
    You did the right thing.

    Now stick with that. This guy sucks.

    I would never talk to him ever again.

    Stay away from people like him. There's good people out there.
    Never be insecure or desperate.

    That only allows users like him to take advantage.

    Take control of your life now. Put this in the past.
  • Oct 16, 2011, 04:26 PM
    Danshalonda
    Thanks so much you guys, I know the only way I'm going to move on from him and stay strong is by reading all the positive feed back. I'm so grateful I found this site and that people that don't know me could care so much. Thank so much
  • Oct 16, 2011, 04:39 PM
    vanheart
    Good for you.

    Read a bunch of the stickies & some other relevant posts here. Will help shed more light.

    Its going to take some time to heal from all of this. I know.

    You've already removed the problem. Thank goodness.
    Now its all about you. Do everything positive for yourself.
    This is a new lease on life.

    Were here whenever you need a hand.
    If it wasn't for amhd, not sure where I would be...

    Van.

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