I just bought a divacup... I'm 18, 95lbs and sexually active.. But I can't fit the cup in it hurts and if I try to rotate it, it opens and hurts more.. I want this to work.. any suggestions?

I just bought the divacup and at first I couldn't get it in now that I have over come that (I can take it out and put it in with no problem and its comfy) but I leak a little during the day and then at night (when my flow is super heavy) I wake up completely soaked in blood.. I have heard that you are supposed to "aim for your butt" when you put it in I have no idea what that means and also I haven't cut the stem because I scared the diva cup will get too far in there and I will have and incredibly hard time getting it out but the stem is comfortable for me.. Please! PLEASE! PLEASE! Help with my leaky issue.

Most of menstrual cups are too big, I think especially for you at 95lb. I'm 110lb and considered tiny, you must be even smaller! If your boyfriend is not squeamish, put a towel on the bed and do it that way. With a cup+him it would hurt even more (at least it did me). Otherwise just wait until your period is over before having sex again.