My nephew, who is the love of my life, hates me. Until the last month we used to play together, hang out, laugh, and he would always come to me for everything. He lived with me, my parents, and his mom. Every day when I come home he screams "AHHH, I don't want to talk to you!" "I don't love you" and when I ask him for a kiss he smacks me across the face. When you ask him who he loves he lists everyone and at the end says and NOT sahar lala (what he calls me). When he wants something from me, though, he asks me and if I don't give it to him he screams and cries. He will say I love you then, but only to get something out of it. When we are home alone, he will turn to me, but ONLY then. Even when I try to talk to him, he seems to be ignoring me and really disinterested.

This is so upsetting! He is everything to me, and I just want to be there for him and play with him like I used to!

Why is this happening? Did I do something wrong?

There really is no way for us to know if you did something wrong. Maybe if you think about it a little bit, you will come up with something you might have done to upset him.

Is there anything I can do to better the situation?

I say don't worry about it p= my baby sister was like that too! To me, I believe its just a stage he's going through. These are the stages I believe babies go through
1.is the new born wich in this stage the baby needs the mother the most to nurture it.

2. as it starts to grow and walk it gets the felling to explore and view the whole world around them

3. as it grows older it starts to become more dependent and wants to do things on its own. ( it feels threated or annoyed when someone wants to hold it becase it wants to go exploring or playing)

4. at this stage its rare if he wants you to hold him unless he's upset. ( by this time he starts to develop the "Mïne" stage, this means that he wants everything you're holding or everything it sees appealing, like a toy or a certain kind of food)

5. this stage becomes the stage were he becomes the most spoiled, they will cry about every little thing, and he will really dislike certain kinds of people, (specially those who hang around him the most I assume that's you) in this stage he learns the most from its elders so be careful! He will think its funny to offend people, hurt them, or just have their way by crying every time they don't get what they want.
I believe this is the stage he is at...

my baby sister was just like your nephew p=...
anyway... just don't spoil him as much as you used to when he was a baby let him know you love him no matter what he thinks. When he cries because you didn't give him something or if he did something bad, don't feel bad for grounding him, but remember to tell them that no matter what that you still love them, that you are just doing it because you love them. Kids can be rough sometimes but they are still kids. If u want to start getting closer to him (this is what I did for my baby sister) I told her that every time she is nice and doesn't act up I give her a whole dollar once a day (this doesn't have to be a dollar) and if she collects ten of them then ill take her to the store to get her something she wants. (you can get him a toy all the way down to his favorite icecream XD) find out what he likes the best or if he likes to collect something like cars or stickers haha . Anyway I hope this helps =/

Umm, he's three years old. This is what 3 year olds do. It's all a learning experience for them. It'll pass, don't take it so seriously.

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Originally Posted by J_9

Umm, he's three years old. This is what 3 year olds do. It's all a learning experience for them. It'll pass, don't take it so seriously.

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J9 is absolutely right. Went through different difficult changes with my son as well. It is part of growing up. If you feed into that behavior though I can tell you it will make it worse. The reaction to that behavior shows that they got you.

You need to remember that this will change sometimes it might be day to day sometimes longer.

As a parent of a child who said that he wants new parents so he can get whatever he wants. So yes very normal phase.