Were newlyweds and only in our lower 20's and my husband doesn't seem the least bit attracted to me. He turns me down for sex all of the time. I know he loves me I just wonder if I'm doing something wrong or... maybe there's someone else.

Hello tinkpanda,

You say you are newlyweds, so it's strange that you should have a problem from the beginning, or was this happening before you were wed?

Your post doesn't give a lot of information, but I will do my best to help you.

Apart from the obvious things like:body odour, bad breath,money worries,some sort of depressive illness,that really only leaves:is he seeing someone else or has the bedroom department become a chore.

Only you will know the answers to some of these.He could be seeing someone else but you are newlyweds,so unless it was going on before,I'd say probably not.( only you know the full details of his comings and goings etc... )

Perhaps you could spice things up a bit in the bedroom,maybe new negligée,new perfume,more foreplay,different positions etc...

If none of my suggestions work,then I think you should both sit down and try and resolve this problem,maybe after a candle lit dinner,nice bottle of wine just to get you relaxed.

It may be something perfectly simple, you just need to have it out in the open to deal with it and get on with your lives together... I wish you luck

Tink Panda,

Welcome to this wonderful site AMHD.com first!

About this problem, arising in the beginning of a long (I hope) innings, you need to work on yourself, trace out the reasons, yourself, and communicate with him to get to the root. Change yourself, as per his desires, if this is the need, e.g. get a new haircut, get new 'sexy' outfit and get nude before him, if you had not tried it hitherto, by taking off your garments one by one. Give him some sexy shocks and surprises!

But, first talk to him too!