Me and this girl have been dating for over a year and I can say for a fact that we are both in love with each other and we always will love each other. We've never cheated on each other. Here recently in the relationship, we haven't been able to see each other as much because we just haven't had time and we haven't been talking on the phone like normal, once again because we are both very busy. She said that not getting to see me or talk to me was killing her, so we agreed to take a break (and stay single) until we have more time to spend with each other. I just don't understand this really. Not seeing each other as much is better than not seeing each other at all. If we both love each other, then we should be together, should we not? We both can't quit thinking about each other, I know this because she had told me this and God knows she has been in my head every day since we agreed to take a break. She said that if we do get any free time during this break though, that we can hang out just as friends... once again I just don't understand this. She said that I didn't do anything wrong, and she didn't do anything wrong either. We are just busy... but I don't want to miss anything in this girls life while we are taking a break, I still have feelings for her and love her very much. And she feels the same way...

No she does not feel as you do. She has decided its just as friends you will see each other and was just letting you down easy, but was being honest. Of course you don't understand because it was her idea, and just know it's a very big red flag when two people love each other, they can't work together to make time for each other, and stay together.

Leave her alone guy, because just being friends with her will only add to your denial, and false hope.

A break, is a break up, especially with the friend zone speech. Sorry, I know how hard it is to accept.

Your better off with a girls point of view for this one. I have broken off a relationship for being too busy before.
Most girls don't think in that way talaniman. There may have been something more recent put on her plate that was large enough that she needed to drop something so she wouldn't go crazy. Make the time to go out with her again that's the way to ease back into her life girls hate clingy so don't whine if she says she is busy. Plan about a week or so in advance so you can go out before she organises what she is doing.

If it is like talaniman says then you will soon figure it out on your own once her plate isn't so full anymore

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Originally Posted by K9_51

your better off with a girls point of view for this one. i have broken off a relationship for being too busy before.
most girls dont think in that way talaniman. there may have been something more recent put on her plate that was large enough that she needed to drop something so she wouldnt go crazy. make the time to go out with her again thats the way to ease back into her life girls hate clingy so dont whine if she says she is busy. plan about a week or so in advance so you can go out before she organises what she is doing.

if it is like talaniman says then you will soon figure it out on your own once her plate isnt so full anymore

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If you are correct then why was he not told that upfront and honestly? Everyone gets busy and caught up in life, but you don't dump a partner unless you no longer care for the commitment. That commitment has to start with honesty first. Its one thing to make time for them, and yet another for them to make time for YOU.

Maybe its something she isn't reasy to talk about, girls are extremely complicated when it comes to personal things. Most girls try not to rely on guys too much to stay happy in their life, that's why girls go out shopping with friends. Maybe this has to do with something she hasn't told him about yet it takes a long time for some girls to open up especially if they have trust issues (like me) and/or are also scared of any sort of intimacy in a relationship(also like me).