I am in relationship with my real brother's wife. Now what will we have to do?

Tell the truth. Come clean about the affair and then everybody will have to decide where to go from there.

I even know personally somebody that was in the same experience and it eventually ended up working out, except the children are messed up. Who fathered who , etc... So it is a very terrible road to go down. For example: The Aunt is also considered the Step Mother, The cousin is also considered the Step sister. The father is also considered the Uncle...

Think about what you guys are doing...

Own up to what you are doing. Come clean. You are deceiving your own brother, he needs to know what he is up against.

Ravi Gupta

With absolute regards for JoeCanada76 and Homegirl25, I shall plead to differ, as I understand Indian psychology, Indian sociology and Indian family system. I do not have any doubt, that owning up such a 'thing' is going to turn all the tables upon you, Ravi!

No doubt, it is difficult, I would recommend forgetting. It is really, really tough, but if your brother also loves her dearly, how can she divide herself between you and he. And, if it is the case, you will not only become bad in his eyes, but also become a sort of social outcast, as far as Inidan system is concerned. You have not mentioned where you are from, but your name indicates you are from India, at least, and may be you dwell here, in India.

So, acceptance, which has great power and is a sort of panacea, is going to be a way to inferno, as far as my understanding is concerned. Still, I would like know the level of your liking, your social atmosphere and your family set-up, keeping which in mind, I may be able to suggest something.

Get back on the path of good behavior, and stop doing anything that brings shame and dishonor to YOU, YOUR brother, or YOUR families.

We love each other very much.I don't want to deceive my brother but I can't live without her.we are living separately but I go to meet her every week and we do sex.Now what we will do so that we forget these things forever?

Most people would believe that what you're doing is wrong and immoral.

Are you asking what you should do to forget that you've slept with her, or so that you can tell your brother and hope for it to be forgiven?

What you and her are committing is ADULTERY. Why does your brother not come first?

Dani

Is this adulterous affair worth hurting the whole freakin' family over?

Have either of you no shame? Or some common sense. Unless you two fools run away and then you better just stop what you are doing, or pay the consequences of your lack of everything decent.

You will never forget this stupidity, and that's the price you pay for crossing the line.

You made a choice to deceive your brother, she made a choice to deceive her husband. You both need to choose to leave each other alone or come clean.

You and she are living a lie and no good will come of that.

But we can't live without each other...

Then you need to be open about the affair. Confess, let them break up and then you can get together with your brothers wife. Then one day you can get married once the marriage is over officially. Then you guys can go on your merry way together and start your life together. Just remember there is ramifications in the whole family for your actions, and her actions. It will not be easy to heal wounds of this nature. I know that for sure.

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but we can't live without each other....

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Then go live with each other and be happy! Just don't expect anyone to share that happiness from either family, or have anything to do with you or her, or your kids.

What you want everyone to be happy about this?