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  • Oct 6, 2011, 02:04 PM
    tuna123
    My partner has depression and has finished our relationship!
    He says he wants to be on his own> He doesn't want to be with anyone.
  • Oct 6, 2011, 07:00 PM
    talaniman
    Then let him be single, and do what ever he wants while you start doing the same.
  • Oct 6, 2011, 08:13 PM
    vanheart
    Whatever the reason, he doesn't want to be with you.

    Be more concerned about you & your well-being.
  • Oct 7, 2011, 07:43 AM
    missinim
    These answers aren't entirely true, because I had to split up with my boyfriend of two and a half years, because of depression and anxiety disorders which led to eating disorders and what not, and I had to end the relationship in order to fully get myself better,that was the only reason!Its not necessarily that he doesn't like you anymore!
  • Oct 9, 2011, 01:45 PM
    tuna123
    Thxs for the replies. But there is no way I can let him go through this on his own, he needs help and I'm the only one there for him. I just can't walk away and let him rot in his own little world!!
  • Oct 9, 2011, 01:54 PM
    Silverfoxkit
    I understand your desire to help the person you care about, but sometimes one of the hardest acts of love is to let go.

    If he says he needs some time alone to get his life straight, then you are helping by giving him the space he wants and needs.

    Relationships, even the best of them, take work. It can be difficult to balance both a relationship and your own needs sometimes, and it is easier to sort yourself out when you do not have to focus on committing to a relationship at the same time.

    Missinim is right, asking to end the relationship for mental health reasons does not mean he does not care about you or that you did anything wrong. Maybe when he can sort himself out and gets the help he needs you can resume a better, healthier relationship. Until then, listen to him and respect his wishes.
  • Oct 9, 2011, 09:35 PM
    Homegirl 50
    Unless you are a mental help professional, you can't help him.
    You can support him by giving him the space he has asked for. Hanging on to him is not going to help him. Your wanting to hang on is about you.

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