What would I put on my w4 if my husband claiming himself and our 2 kids, Would I have to claim myself or can I out 0 and married, remind you my husband not claiming me on his w4 but he did put married?

Ebaines addresses this in another post. You should claim MARRIED with ZERO alloances to make enough money is withheld to cover your tax liability.

If, for the 2011 tax return, you have an overly large tax refund, you can then re-visit the Form W-4 and have LESS withheld for 2012.