Dealing with my husband after him leaving!
Hi I'm posting in addition to another question I'd posted on 4th Oct regarding my husband leaving me.
Anyway 2 weeks ago I'd decided I'd had enough of the uncertainty of what was happening between us. Since he left he's been in and out of my life when he feels like it! I questioned him about it and asked if he was ready to move on as he'd been talking of moving out of his brothers and getting flat of his own! He said 'yes that's what I want' whilst crying into my shoulder!
Two days later he kept texting me and phoning me, I finally returned his call later that day and he was crying again, said he'd been like that since we spoke! He said he wasn't sure whether it was me or family life he was missing but getting his own place was something he needed to try, he said he might not even like it! I have noticed over the past couple of months he's been really down and hasn't been enjoying hobbies and things that he always used to love, he seems to come for my company to possibly make himself feel better.
Also a few comments he's made about death i.e.. The other week he was looking at fast sports cars and I asked him jokingly 'you trying to kill yourself' he just replied 'who knows' there have been several comments he's said that have scared me especially because of his apparent low mood!
I've got no one I can talk to this about as I don't want to talk behind his back. I was wondering if it could be some sort of midlife crisis or depression he's suffering with or whether he could just be taking me for a fool (alot of work if the latter is the case). He keeps telling me he's sorry for not being fair to me and that he can't expect me to wait!
Don't know how to deal with the situation. Any opinions would be greatly appreciated.
Confused about my situation!
Hi I'm posting in addition to another question I'd posted on 4th Oct regarding my husband leaving me. Anyway 2 weeks ago I'd decided I'd had enough of the uncertainty of what was happening between us. Since he left he's been in and out of my life when he feels like it! I questioned him about it and asked if he was ready to move on as he'd been talking of moving out of his brothers and getting flat of his own! He said 'yes that's what I want' whilst crying into my shoulder! Two days later he kept texting me and phoning me, I finally returned his call later that day and he was crying again, said he'd been like that since we spoke! He said he wasn't sure whether it was me or family life he was missing but getting his own place was something he needed to try, he said he might not even like it! I have noticed over the past couple of months he's been really down and hasn't been enjoying hobbies and things that he always used to love, he seems to come for my company to possibly make himself feel better. Also a few comments he's made about death i.e.. The other week he was looking at fast sports cars and I asked him jokingly 'you trying to kill yourself' he just replied 'who knows' there have been several comments he's said that have scared me especially because of his apparent low mood! I've got no one I can talk to this about as I don't want to talk behind his back. I was wondering if it could be some sort of midlife crisis or depression he's suffering with or whether he could just be taking me for a fool (alot of work if the latter is the case). He keeps telling me he's sorry for not being fair to me and that he can't expect me to wait! Don't know how to deal with the situation.