So I'm new to sex and could really use some technical advice. Now I know this is a very difficult question but I'm trying to figure out how to achieve an orgasm. My real concern goes back to the issue of masturbation. I have always masturbated using only one method, squeezing my legs together. Now I know that it feels really good but I'm not even sure if I ever actually had an orgasm, definitely never made myself scream from pleasure or anything. Now that I had sex a couple of times, which again felt really good in the process but never lead to any definite conclusion, I am wondering what it takes to orgasm with ones legs actually open. I tried masturbating with my fingers on the ****, I tried reaching in and looking for the g-spot (found nothing)... My partner tries so hard, but although he has more experience then me, he's not sex professor himself. I really want to help him make me feel good, but the only thing that does it for me is the squeeze technique... I read on site that squeeze technique works for people who actually have a MORE sensitive ****, but if it's more sensitive then why doesn't my hand work?

I hope this wasn't too graphic a description. I really need advice and would appropriate any and all help. Thank you!

How old are you? We can't give this sort of advice until we know your age, it's the rules

Oh I'm 22

The first thing is to make certain you aren't forgetting the biggest erogenous zone you have-your brain. If you get the brain involved, then the body will have an easier time following.

Getting your brain involved in a good and positive way will also help you feel more comfortable in different positions. If you are thinking about how much you love the feel of skin or how good he smells, you won't be thinking about how awkward you feel or what you should be doing or feeling.

Fantasy, memories, erotica, etc. can help get your mind aroused. Sharing your fantasies may help you both find what you like and what works for you as a couple.

Keep experimenting. What you try one day that doesn't work may work better at another time. Even a slight change in angle or pressure can make a huge difference especially if you are fully aroused and mentally involved.

Does this mean you are working things out with your 'fling' and feeling more confident about communicating with him? :)

Cat, thanks so much for your help, both on this and the other question. Yes we are figuring things out. It's still a very complicated situation and that maybe why my brain not be doing what it should hm... definitely something to consider. Thank you for all your help and support!

You are welcome. :)

I hope everything works out for the best.