I divorced when my sons were 12 and 15. My 15 yr old wanted to stay w/ his dad in home. I unfortunantly allowed this. This gave my vindictive ex the chance to turn him against me. I haven't seen or talked to him in 4 ears. I cry everyday. I'm sick over this. My other son can't even talk to him. He is 24 now. Bitter, moody and told my god daughter he hates me.My new hub never met him. My ex won't meet my hub either. The ex is still angry I left. He has never moved it and its been 9 years. I've tried everything to reconnect to my son.Phone calls, I send him gifts on his b-day, x-mas, I text him that I love him. No response at all. I've wrote letters. His father told him I left them. This is killing me. My hub says to try to get rid of the guilt. I never left him. I was always there. Always. I love my sons more than life. People tell me to forget him. How can you tell a mom that? HELP PLEASE!
A hole in my heart... devastated

What was life like for your sons when you and your ex were still married? Was there a lot of turmoil and fighting?

Were you the one to file for divorce?

By the way, I'm glad you've come to this site for some input. There are several very helpful experts and other members here who know what they are talking about.

We never fought or yelled. My ex was an extremely jealous person. I would panic if I were talking to the mail man and knew he was coming home.He would make the months toff the wall accusations. I was home 24/7 with my babies.He accused me of everyone including his brother... his cousin.. his friends. I was his possession. I filed for divorce. Could not live that way anymore. He couldn't believe I left and therefore instilled his anger into my son. Turning my son against me.