I've been going out with this girl for the past six months, and she always tells me I'm special. I always make her smile. She cherishes the time we spend together, that she loves me, and she will be really happy if we get married. Anyway we are both college students, and last semester I took ill during the exams, and I failed a lot of courses. The sickness last for 2months. So because of this I had to repeat the current level and as expected I was really depressed.

So I told my girlfriend about it and that when I got the shocker. She told me that she won't like to go out with some one in a lower level and that she was confused. So we talked about it and she said she might not be faithful and she does not want to hurt me.. she wanted out.

It was really painful because it was when I need her her the most that she decided to do this. So I told her okay.. we will have a break for a month then we will see what happens from there.. we both agreed on that.. I withdrew myself from her and just tried to recover from my depression but we still talked regularly.

Then after like 2 weeks she asked why I was acting like I was disgusted with her, but I just told her that I was going through a tough time that's why. Then she started sending me messages again that she loves me and that she wants to be there for me. I really need your advice cause I already started killing the feeling for her already, and she says the break will be temporary that she just need time to think things through. I feel she wants to move on to someone else but I don't want to jump to conclusion and now she acts like she wants me more.. please I need your advice.. thanks

I think you have to many personal problems to be in a relationship at this time and have lost all objectivity, and its you who need space to get your own issues solved. Need a doctor for that depression? While its normal to be disappointed with your school performance, its only a temporary setback that can be overcome, but your reaction is a bit to far I think, especially with a girl you have only dated for 6 months.

Leave her alone, and get your priorities straight, and she shouldn't be high on the list.

"She told me that she won't like to go out with some one in a lower level"

That all you need to hear.

Sounds like she is on a lower level. Screw that. You don't need a girl like that.
She's bad for everyone with that attitude.

If I heard that, Id be gone.
Love yourself first. Then others.

Pick your friends. You will know who they are.
The ones that care. Without condition.

The good ones. Not the fakes.

First off anyone who would belittle you about your performance that way especially since you were in a time of need is so not worth your time I say ditch her and focus on you find things that make you happy and keep you busy sounds like she doesn't care about you the way someone who loves you does it seems she only wants you when she can't have you like she's using you its only going to hurt you so much more to stick around with her and deal with having to be pushed aside because your ill and not having her help you so ask yourself is feeling this way really worth it for the rest of your time or can you do better I think personally you can good luck!

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Now am back with my girlfriend but I don't know why she thinks I don't love her anymore.. she told me that it got so bad that she actually removed her made from the relationship and she was expecting me to break up with her soon.. I promised her I will get better and always be there for me.. but she said she is finding it hard to forget what I did.. help

I THINK I am glad you got back with her, but seems she will take some time to forgive, and even longer to forget... if she ever does.

Your first sentence:
"now am back with my girlfriend but i don't know why"
Figure that one out.

I go back to this one:
"She told me that she won't like to go out with some one in a lower level"

That comment disgusts me. I. or any of my close ones would never, ever, say that.
Oh well..

She's taken you back?
The I guess you have better get on it.

I am going through a similar situation myself. What I find to be helpful is if she cares about you as much as she says she does, then all I would do is just go with it and don't fall in love with people so easily. I actually just got told by my girlfriend today that she wants to take a few steps back. She wanted to start back out as friends. I told her I was cool with that if that's what she really wanted but why didn't she tell me sooner like before I fell in love with her. You just have to give women their space but don't let them slip away either. Just show her that you still care for her and what you are willing to do to keep your relationship going in the right direction. I hope what I have said is helpful to you in some way or another. I wish you the best of luck in trying to make things work with you and your girlfriend.