My ex boyfriend broke up with me about 3 1/2 weeks ago. Throughout the course of 3 1/2 weeks, I tried to get him back. I called him a lot, texted him a lot. And when I saw him , things went bad. I would lose my temper, I broke his chain accidentally, broke his screen, and I accidentally slapped him. Things got pretty ugly and so did my behavior and it got to the point were he was scared to see me. I wouldn't hurt him though... him or NO ONE!

I realized, that I had a lot of hidden anger and hurt that he caused me weeks prior, and when he ended things, It resurfaced... however, I was forgiving him for what he previously did. I was so disappointed that he gave up on us so fast. He said he doesn't love me anymore, and wants nothing to do with me. I haven't contacted him in two days, but I saw him yesterday. I really miss him and I really love him. I feel so guilty about all that happened, and I wish I could trn back time and dealt with it in a different way.

I feel so guilty. I have apologized A LOT! But now I'm backing off, hoping that he will ease up and fogive me and give me another chance. I feel so guilty about what happened.

Should I contact him (and if so how long?), should I wait until he contacts me or should I move on? I don't want to contact him within a few weeks and then he rejects me. Is all that happened forgivable? =( help!

I think you forget contacting him, and think more like leaving him alone. I would take him at his word that he doesn't love you any longer.

That's as straight as he can get.

I agree with Tal, he has clearly told you it is over.

I just wanted to add that breaking things and slapping people when you are angry, is not accidental, nor is it caused by anything other than, you are not in control of yourself, or your emotions. Nobody caused you to lose it.

You wouldn't let go, and you did not handle this breakup in a mature way. The texting, messages etc. sounded relentless, and as time went on, built up to a showdown, which is what you got. It had nothing to do with mending the relationship, again, it was your anger out of control.

That he also hurt you prior to the breakup, is not license, or cause, to do what you did. It does not sound like the two of you knew how to communicate well enough that you could solve problems without lashing out. Nothing gets resolved in a fit of rage, a heated argument, accusations, etc. Having a healthy relationship means knowing yourself well enough to know when to walk away.

I hope you learn enough about yourself to recognize your part in this, and see clearly enough now, that it is over, and you must leave him alone and move on.

Spend some time learning and reflecting on yourself, and without passing blame onto anybody else, what you did, what you allowed yourself to do, and what you want to change, so that the next relationship doesn't find you in the same boat. If you learn, you will change. If you continue to find fault and cause for your own actions with others, you are doomed to repeat history.

Best of luck to you.

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You did all of the wrong things.

Breaking stuff, Begging him after. Etc.

"it got to the point were he was scared to see me"

I don't blame him. No sh$$t.

Take the advice here.

Get a grip. Some face to face counsel may be in order.

Figure out who you are.