Before I say anything, Yes I am above the age of 18.
The past few months, I've found it impossible to reach orgasm. Whether it be alone or with a partner, I am finding that big O elusive. With my ex I was able to climax easily, then slowly as time went on, it got harder and harder. Now it seems impossible. What can I do either alone or with a partner to fix this? Is there some libido boost I need? What can cause this drop in satisfaction?

I've already ruled out the following:
-Medicine, I was not on any of my medicines during the time I began to lose my ability to climax
-Not being relaxed, I have even tried showers and massages prior to alleviate stress
-De-sensitivity, I have definitely not lost any feeling ability down there

Changes or factors that I have no idea if it could effect anything
-Stress of depression, then hospitalization, and now job and moving in with parents
-Lactation (though I did not have this problem originally)
-Break up with ex/Fighting with him
-Weight gain


Could any of these be my problem? If so, how can I fix this?

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Originally Posted by Lyra123

Before I say anything, Yes I am above the age of 18.
The past few months, I've found it impossible to reach orgasm. Whether it be alone or with a partner, I am finding that big O elusive. With my ex I was able to climax easily, then slowly as time went on, it got harder and harder. Now it seems impossible. What can I do either alone or with a partner to fix this? Is there some libido boost I need? What can cause this drop in satisfaction?

I've already ruled out the following:
-Medicine, I was not on any of my medicines during the time I began to lose my ability to climax
-Not being relaxed, I have even tried showers and massages prior to alleviate stress
-De-sensitivity, I have definitely not lost any feeling ability down there

Changes or factors that I have no idea if it could effect anything
-Stress of depression, then hospitalization, and now job and moving in with parents
-Lactation (though I did not have this problem originally)
-Break up with ex/Fighting with him
-Weight gain


Could any of these be my problem? If so, how can I fix this?

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Yes any one or combination of many can greatly affect libido.

The first thing I would recommend is a trip to the Dr for a checkup.
Make sure there is nothing physically wrong is a good place to start.

And counselling can be another avenue you might explore .

Professional opinions by professionals there to interact in real time is something to seriously consider.

Thank you very much, I'll talk to my doctor.

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Originally Posted by Lyra123

Thank you very much, I'll talk to my doctor.

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You're welcome.

I hope the answers you need are quick to be found.
Keep us informed please.

I will, and I hope so also

Try doing it too yourself and think about any thing you want let your mind go wild learn what turns you one thing about what made you org the best before turn yourself on first then tease you self

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Originally Posted by keona

try doing it too your self and think about any thing you want let your mind go wild learn what turns you one thing about what made you org the best before turn your self on first then tease you self

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Thank you, I'll try that