She has PMDD and wants a "Break"
My fiancˇ and I have been dating for 3 years. I recently moved to a larger city to attend law school and she is 5 hours away. She recently applied for a new job here. She doesn't respond well to stress and basically acts like a spaz and shuts down when something stresses her out.
She has PMDD which means that the week prior to her period, she is just down right mean. Its been this way for our three years together, and this is the time when we have split up, its been the week before her period. She is also a bad alcoholic. The past few weeks she has been stressed out about moving up here and the wedding at the beginning of the summer. Recently she has been going out drinking with her girlfriends and getting all hammered before she has to go to work. Her drinking has become so bad that I have trying to get her to stop going to bars till 3 am. She finds my behavior as controlling and that I am being over bearing, but I feel that I am only looking out for the best interest of her and our relationship.
She had a complete melt down this week before her period. She is losing her hair and said that the relationship is just too much for her to deal with right now in light of everything that she has going on. She said that she needs a break to get herself right. She said that she doesn't know why she feels the way she does. She said that she is very depressed and right now she doesn't think that she wants any more children and can't deal with the thought of getting married.
She said that she is not going to date and that is loves me, but she is just overloaded. She called me three times on Sat night but I haven't heard from her since then, granted its only Monday at 9am, how do I deal with the trainload of baggage?
My game plan is to give her all the space she wants, I'm 36 in law school, so I've played the games. Ill cut my hand off before id call her. But it doesn't make the anxiety go away. I love her, or I wouldn't have asked her to marry me. But her undiagnosed PMDD and self destructive behavior is killing us. Any advice?