So me and my boyfriend have been on and off for three years. He has cheated in the past so we broke up after several instances. But now he and I are back on and things have really changed. He is attentive and loving, caring and more in touch with my feelings which is great so I have little to no reason not to trust he's doing right (I do still check the phone sometimes without him knowing, which can show he is being faithful). I have it down to how long it takes him to get home and he never falters.

He has a baby momma who through the years we had major problems because she was miserable and wanted the same for him. I felt she wanted him or just some man to make her happy. But now she and I are on good terms, I am always skeptical that it may go bad again but I'm still being cool.

I was told by a friend that he was told that "she (me) is so stupid, because she with him (my boyfriend) but he still sleeping with his nasty baby momma". I feel that this is 100 percent false and that this is just someone who thinks they know stuff because his baby momma is a ho, and no one really likes her.

So my dilemma is DO I TELL HIM WHAT HAS BEEN SAID? I don't want him to have an issue for no reason and be upset because I know that it isn't true! What to do? Tell or don't tell? Help me please!

What on earth are you doing?

You should have been long one by now
You check his phone and you don't trust him that is a major red flag

Are just scared to. Be alone? I can't fathom why you are in this relationship

My advice leave him and his baby momma to do what they want and find yourself a health relationship


Because what you guys have isn't love isn't trust
It's just something to pass the time because is eay and familiar.


Break it off

Or continue to be in a relationship with no respect no love no future

No one on this site will say this is a healthy relationship

What you should tell him is I'm worth more than this.

Have some self respect girl

If you know its not true, why repeat gossip? Heck you check his phone, and movements enough to know if its true or false, don't you?

Just bring it up in conversation, without sounging like you're attacking him. Calmly. "You know what baby, I was so hurt when I overheard someone callin me stupid. They said you were sleeping with your ____baby momma____ still. Really hurt my feelings. Just wanna get that off my chest."

Watch how he reacts, and listen to your heart.

And if you're checking his phone without his permission, there's an underlying problem, that you're not facing. If you took him back, you have to forget the past and move forward. Otherwise, you'll be stagnant in one spot.