Me and my boyfriend have been together for over five years. Recently, my boyfriend received an text message from his ex-wife stating that she has gone to Department of Child Support Services and ask for more support. BOTH myself and my boyfriend are responsible to pay child support for the children.

We are NOT married. What should I do if I receive court order stating I have to pay for child support when I am NOT the biological mother of the children?

Please help,

Desperate girlfriend living in California

Hi drained, does this really sound to you, thhat you and your boyfriend are responsible for paying child support to his ex for HIS CHILDREN ? Of course it isn't correct; as you stated you are not married to him but just wish your bank accounts are separate entities because if they are combined, that is where the money is coming from should the court award her more child support.

The court knows better then that, the papework will come tohim solely.
Tick

Each jurisdiction is different, I do not know of one personally that looks at "household" income, but only looks at his.

Now if he is not paying, many of the partners will help them pay but not required.

Next you will not receive a court order, you at worst will receive a summons for a new hearing to modify the current court order.

But my opinion, they are talking bull to upset everyone or to try and bother.

Question is he up to date on his payments to her? Is there any back support due ? She is making threats to try and get her money that is owed ?

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

She is making threats to try and get her money that is owed ?

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Sounds like the ex is trying to push some buttons, is a little bit jealous and wants to make trouble without knowing what she is talking about.

Tick

While I agree with the other responses, you would do well to close any accounts held jointly with your boyfriend and keep your funds separate.

Legally you are not responsible for paying for your boyfriend's child support. Your income is never factored into his income to calculate support. Don't pay attention to text messages. Pay attention to Court Orders only. Even if you were married to him your income has nothing to do with his child support obligations.