We have been together a year. We are both 26. In the begging we were making out having sex on a daily bases. Then she tells me that I had gained weight and I have desensitized her with continuing affection (what does that mean?). So I lost all the weight, gained more muscle, I look way better than I ever had before. I try to ignite the fire again. But nothing is working. We haven't had sex in a whole month.What else can I do?

As to what "Desensitizing her with continuing affection." means, it seems rater simple. I believe that she's gotten used to the way you show affection, so that if you want to show your affection then you need to do something different.

There is probably something else going on here. You need to have a more frank discussion with her. She probably picked on your weight because it is an easy target for her. There is a deeper reason for it, but I couldn't say what it is.

Good luck!

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I have desensitized her with continuing affection (what does that mean?).

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It means the ways you go about getting sex, and intimacy isn't working. What to do? Make love to her mind, and the body shall follow, and you sir have neglected her mind. Look to satisfying her needs besides those of the body. Do you know how to do that?

It just happens.