My bofriend wants me to change. He is telling me that I look fat and that I need to change the way I look I'm 4'9 I weight 99 pounds and ihave to kids. I feel like my body has change since I had 2 kids. I don't know what to do he wants to leave if I don't change .

Your weight is where it really should be for a woman your height. Let me ask you this Does your boyfriend have a rock hard six-pack?

You know what the BEST way to lose weight in a situation like this is?

Throw out your boyfriend. That's 200 lbs of dead weight out of your life.

You are at a good weight for your height. If he doesn't like it, LET him leave. You're better off without someone so superficial.

If the kids are his, make sure to file for child support after he leaves.

No he does not

He is not realistic and looks like he wants to break up but wants you to do it, ( so he can feel justified)

Your weight is fine, I bet he is not in great shape either.

Telling you that you are fat is mean, and not a loving partner.

Throw him to the curb as fast as you can.

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No he does not

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Yeah I figured he didn't. If I were you I would tap him on his belly and say I think you need to hit the gym cause I am the ideal weight for my height then walk away from him.

Thank you so much, to all of you. This is actually helping me understand and see what kind of person he is. And I know exactly what I have to do.

I'm confident he doesn't actually believe you're fat, at 99 pounds, how could you be? Every man knows a woman is sensitive about her weight, so, he's just trying to pick a fight, which, indicates he's not happy.

Screw him, get a guy that appreciates you at any weight, for any reason. Tell him to get a broom to love.

I think I would tell him I had decided to take his advice and change. My boyfriend.

I agree with everyone else here. At 4'9" and 99lbs there is no way you can be so fat that he feels the need for an ultimatum. By the sounds of it he is looking for a scapegoat and he has found it.

Don't take that from anyone. You know if you need to lose weight or not and you shouldn't EVER need/want to change for anybody for any reason.

Good luck and stand strong!

You never ever ever let anybody demand that of you. You never change for anybody else. Only for you. If he is going to leave. Let him leave. You deserve better. This is emotional abuse as far as I am concerned.

Something else is going on here, looks like he does not have the guts to talk to you about the real problem so he is trying to turn it into your fault,

Honestly. Don't see. How a man could talk to the mother of his kids like that