Okay, this was a strange "relationship".. We never technically dated but it definitely seemed like it. This guy started to like me around February this year. I had no idea.. Until someone told me. Then one night, I got drunk and was all over him. He loved it. We had sex a couple times and I decided to tell him that it wasn't going to work, I didn't want to do it anymore. That night I got wasted and he did stuff with my best friend. She told me a couple nights later and my reaction surprised me. I was jealous. I woke up at 6 am that next morning, thinking about it. I text him "i'm confused." he wrote back, and said then lets just be exclusive.. We're the only people either of us is going to sleep with. We did that for about a month or a little more. He started to act weird and I didn't know what was going on.. Long story short, his ex girlfriend came back into the picture. She's pregnant with another man's child and for some reason decided to come back into his life. I found out, and was pissed. I completely avoided him in every social situation until I finally decided to hang out with him again. He ended up cheating on her that night, breaking up with her the next day.. And we were together every day for the month of may. If I wasn't at his house, he was at mine. Neither of us were working so it was literally every waking second, and sleeping. I was so happy to have him back. At the end of may, he told me he didn't want to do it anymore. He said that one night when I was drunk, I was on the phone with him and told him I loved him. I assured him that wasn't the case. Sure, feelings were starting to develop but I didn't LOVE him. He said it scared him. I find out from my best friend he had lunch with his ex the next day. I was so mad. They started dating again the 2nd of June.. He cheated on her with me on the 24th and 30th. He would ask for dirty pictures so he could get off. I sent them, of course. I ended up telling her over Facebook about his infidelity. I didn't want to be second anymore.. I thought, if they break up.. Oh well. If they don't.. He won't talk to me anymore and I can finally get past this. Well, they didn't break up and doesn't talk to me.. At least yet. He tried ignoring me for 3 weeks for "both our benefits" but ended up giving in and told me it wasn't that easy for him to ignore me. Anyway, I just want an outsiders opinion on the whole situation. I know I shouldn't want to be with him.. Because if he'll cheat on the girl he's "loved for 5 years" why wouldn't he cheat on me? As far as I know, I'm one of the only women he remained faithful to.. And we didn't even date. Anyway.. Advice, opinions, comments.. Whatever you have, I'll take it.

Lots of drama.
Lots of sleeping around and going back and forth.
Honestly there was no relationship here. Sex yes, but that is about it.

Question do you want somebody that is interested in sex, and also goes back and forth between people.
Or do you want somebody that will form a relationship with you that is not only sex.

You allowed this to happen though with the sex, so your just as bad as he is. It does sound like drinking a lot for you is a problem and an issue.

If you want a real relationship that depends more then just sex. I would suggest you get to know somebody first before initiating it and try not to drink so much.

This is just my opinions and thoughts. That is what you asked for. Oh and to answer your question about if he will come back. When he wants another dose of sex he will. Do you really want him to come back just for that?

May be there is an other side of him that you do not know yet.
I like the way you said "whatever it is, I'll take it".. nice. And this is my suggestion, do not take whatever rubbish he is giving. This is not NSA, right, definitely not.
Remember, there are times he has said that he doesn't want to do it anymore. Then why do you think he keeps coming back? Love? Naa, I don't think so. You got the point too, if he can do it to a five-years-old love..
So, do not give him another chance, if he is coming back.

Hahaha.. I don't have a drinking problem. This is over a matter of a couple of months.. I barely even drink anymore. No, I don't want just sex.. I'm so confused over the whole situation and I just want to erase him from my mind.. but I have nights like I did last night where it's all I think about. I think I want him to come back just so I can try and hurt him like he hurt me, but I'm moving in January and at the same time I don't want to see him before that. It was mostly about sex.. but at some points he didn't want to have sex. He would tell me he just wanted to spend time with me.. and that's not what it was about. I just felt there was so much chemistry and compassion and everyone could see it.. he just threw it away like it was nothing.

That's the problem with our mind, when we try to forget something it keeps coming back. One sure way, 'tested ok' method.. is to keep yourself occupied. When you have nights like the last night, call some friends who care about you, talk to them.. or do something that keeps you busy la. I'm sure two months from now (in two months its not Jan right? Yeah) you would have moved on.. so think about that.
There are sticky articles about this in this site, they are tested OK too.. you should probably read them. Good luck for your happy future without him in it.

Sounds more like he just wants sex from you. When you give it to him, he will hang around. If you don't give it to him, then he will find sex from someone else.

He obviously doesn't take you seriously, otherwise we would not be bouncing you around this way.

If you want something seirous, then find someone who will take you seriously. Don't be toyed around with anymore.

Thank you everybody.. this is helping me see things for what they really were... which is what I needed! I'm more than that! I'm beautiful, funny and smart and I can do way better :D