Should I be in a relationship with a younger guy?
Hey Guys...
I need your help, experience, and advice here
I recently met a guy in this interest group who is 4 yrs younger than me.
He confessed to me that he likes me. At first he was uncomfortable with the dating, or liking someone older, but he has come to terms with it.
I do like him to a certain extent but when I think of what is ahead of us, I am not ready to take this leap of faith that it would work out.
He has never ever been in a relationship before, although he is 24 yr old. He gets a little needy, and possessive at times, even as friends. There were several times I told him that maybe it is better we stay at friends,and he got all emotional, and teary. And that frightens me a lot. I can't handle emotional boys.
I have been working for about 3 yrs, therefore in terms of career I am a few years ahead of him. I would like to settle down soon once I have met the right guy, within 1 or 2 years max. I am quite tired of being in a long relationship, as my last relationship lasted for 6 whole years, and it ended badly.
I have three issues which I can't seem to get over...
1) That I'll be dating a younger guy. I have trouble even telling friends about our age gap. I feel embarrassed, and when we are in public I don't even feel like holding his hands. At times, I feel he is quite childish.
2) He is still studying, and he has another 1.5 years to go before he graduates.
I probably will need to wait another 4 years before we can settle down. 4 years is too much for me. All my other friends are already starting to get married... have babies... etc. 4 years is kind of out of my time line.
3) At my age, I am making quite a bit, and he would find it hard to catch up. I do mind that my other half will be making significantly lesser than me. It just feels weird. He shared with me that his family, his mother is the sole bread winner, and his dad just bums at home. When I heard of that, I honestly got a little turned off.
Everything else aside, the reason why I am posting this is because, there's a lot of fear inside me... that if I let this guy go, I may not find another dude who has the potential to love me unconditionally, and accept me for who I am. He is a really sincere person, and he kept telling me he would work really work in the future for us etc etc . But I am quite scared to take his word for it as it concerns my happiness here.
I know for sure if I am with him, he won't cheat on me, or love me any less... and I can focus on other areas of my life, and not wonder what he is doing when I am not with him...
What should I do? If it were you, how will you deal with this?
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