For my story, look at my past threads.

Thing is, I can't get over her. I am dating soemone else now, and have been for 9 months, but I still love my ex.

I want her back in my life, even as a friend just as long as she is back. Sad and desperate yes.

I do'n't know why I can't get over her. Maybe its because she was the first person I actually saw myself marrying, and she said the same thing as well?

Its ruining my current relationship, the fact that I can't get over my ex.

I need help, any tips or tricks or advice on how to get over my ex?

Its obvious she is over me, so why can't I be the same?

I can only tell you that you are not ready for a relationship with anyone, and its so unfair for your current girl to be a rebound for you, because you simply cannot replace someone like that.

I highly advise you to rethink this, and rebuild yourself with friends, and activities as a single guy who has much work to do on himself.

9 months may not be enough for you, but as long as you use another as a crutch for your broken heart, expect more misery. All you have done trying to have a relationship before you are ready is to stay focused on what you had, and since its not the same, it's a big reminder of your loss.

Be honest and stop holding on to old feelings and ideas, and strike out alone and focus on just you, and the things you do.

To heal, you must rebuild, alone.

That's why rebounding hurts everyone.

I wouldn't want to be your girlfriend knowing that you still are pining for your ex that's long gone.

Think about it.

Only hurts you in the long run.

"Its obvious she is over me"
You say it, so, why don't you get it?

How about giving love to people that love you. Not ones that don't.

I do like my current GF, I mean she is everything I want and like in a woman, so we are a good match.

But for some reason I just can't forget the ex. My GF thinks its because of the way she treated me during the break up, all the lies and such. That what I really want is the truth, just the truth as to why things ended.

And it makes sense in a way. I mean the night before the ex dumped me she looked me in the eye and said she loves me and looks forward to our future together.

My GFs theory is I just want to know why she did that if she knew she was going to dump me.

Try to stop living in the past.

If you keep this BS up, you may find that you will have another ex to cry over.

Maybe she doesn't know why her feelings changed suddenly, but my guess is she found feelings for someone else.

But dwelling on the past sure stops you from enjoying the present doesn't it? Accept the fact that this is all happening because she wasn't who you thought she was. You swallowed her lies, and it hurts for you to admit it. Ask yourself WHY, you believed her. Then forgive yourself for YOUR mistake, so YOU can move on and do better.

You are still hurting over this, you need more time, as obviously you resent having to move on, and don't understand why you must. You are fighting YOURSELF.

You need to make a choice. Be single, keep yourself busy, and don't date anyone until you are completely over your girlfriend. Jumping into a relationship before you were completely done with the last one is a bad idea and a very bad habit, rebounding will only elongate the healing process, and unfortunately the only way to heal is to let time pass by.