I've never been a priority to this man... he's always trying to fix his faults but keeps putting his foot in his mouth. I'm sick of the X wife and I'm sick of his long time female friend. He's always making these women a priority. Now I don't want to touch him or him touch me cause he's made me feel less than a priority .

He is fixed, at least the fixed he wants to be, He is exactly like and doing what he wants.

Your choice is to accept this, or move on.

How long have you been involved with this man? Was it like this before you started seeing him?

You said that he is trying to fix his faults. Does he see this a 'fault' which he needs to change or is this something you have decided he needs to change?

If you are trying to change him it isn't going to work. If he sees them as priorities then you know where you stand. It is up to you to make changes in your own life to make and keep yourself happy.

Could it be possible that you are too involved in his life and he sees no reason to make the changes you think he should? Do you have friends or interests which give you some time away from him and the relationship?

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Originally Posted by Toooldforthis

I've never been a priority to this man...he's always trying to fix his faults but keeps putting his foot in his mouth. I'm sick of the X wife and I'm sick of his long time female friend. He's always making these women a priority. Now I don't want to touch him or him touch me cause he's made me feel less than a priority .

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Then its time to go and rebuild a life without him in it!

Show him the door.
We all deserve fulfilling relationship based on love,honest communications and respect.

These qualities are sadly lacking here.

Dump him!

He isn't good for you. How long have been w/him? Did you know about all of this drama before?

Stop making him your priority, if you aren't his.

I say lay it on the line, once & for all, or split. My guess is that he isn't willing to make you #1.

Maybe later you can find someone that can treat you as you deserve.

Be more selective next time.

A little B4 May... but in the end of June is when I noticed the X was the priority. Says he doesn't know better and to help him do rift by me. I just don't feel like dealing w/ someone that doesn't even have common sense enough to know how to get a relationship to work and how to destroy one. Thanks for all the inputs.

"Says he doesn't know better"

I guess he's right. But you know better, now.

Exit. Go NC.

Let him get over his ex.

Now you can over yours.

Then don't make him a priority plain and simple. Don't give more than he's willing to give. We don't fall in love based on what someone does for us. We fall in love based on what we do for someone else. Get out there and start dating others. If you're unhappy take action and move on.

Then what is the problem? Leave.