He cheated right after marriage?
I just found out my husband cheated on me after a few months of marriage (married 14yrs ago). He says he was "in transition" from who he was to who he was becoming. He said he was panicking because he feared his sexual needs were not going to be met in our marriage.
After digging deeper I also found out he had an affair 6 yrs ago with a woman who went to prison for attempted murder. He took out a Craig's List ad this past May for "small groups and couples, zero drama lots of fun" and he's had ads out on various sites for years. I found pictures he had posted online of him and another woman having oral sex.
I had health problems leading up to and following a hysterectomy, sex has been painful for years and he is a very sexual being with kinky tendencies who says he freaked out and doesn't really want that lifestyle.
My heart is broken but he has half of it.
Am I completely insane for thinking we should work on this? We are in counselling.