Recently had a breakup a week ago with my ex.. it was a heated argument and she holds some of what I said against me forever as she says... she always told me I was her forever and constantly how much she loved me... the day after we broke up I found out she already on a free dating site... I text her and she said it the only way 2 get over me... I have been txtn her but she mostly ignores me and tells me I hurt her 2 much and 2 stop... should I give up... could she really be already putting herself out there after I was supposedly the one

Her words seem pretty empty if she's already looking for dates. Maybe you were her one and only, but she's changed her mind about that pretty quickly and is moving on.

I think you should be moving on too... Stop texting her and accept this relationship has ended.

Funny thing about emotions - there is no logic, no sense, no perceivable pattern to discern. Many times while we are still "in the moment" it's easy to imagine a life with someone. The problem is, it takes a long time for most of us to realize what we really want for ourselves.

It honestly sounds to me like she just wants to explore her own life and her own options. She also seems to need to validate herself with someone else's affection. Up until now, you served this purpose. She isn't a bad person for this, she simply needs to secure her own self-esteem before trying another serious relationship.

Now, on to you. Getting dumped is, quite frankly, the harshest and most difficult form of rejection anyone can experience in their life. Oftentimes we get hung up on the minutia, trying to figure out what we did wrong or where we could have said or done something different. While it's natural to reflect on the memories, the important thing is to focus on what you've learned for yourself. What can you take away from this experience to better yourself? I know it's hard to look at it that way right now, but eventually you'll have to move on and focus on your own life.

She is obviously focusing on herself right now. I know you want to try and "save" your relationship with her but if she's already looking elsewhere, it's over. She may try to come back, and it's your decision whether to go that route. Right now, though, the only person you should be focusing on is yourself.

Best of luck!

~ Tee

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Originally Posted by hopeless207

could she really be already putting herself out there after I was supposedly the one

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It's looking that way.

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should I give up...

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Yes.

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Should I give up before I look psycho?

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YES, ABSOLUTELY. You WERE the one, now you're not.