Insecure Boyfriend Never Liked My Career
I use to work for a bank (7 years). My boyfriend hated the fact that I worked there because I was a manager (thinking young tellers would try something), the hours were crazy (the bank was like my 2nd home), and I complained about the job a lot (he would get frustrated AT ME when I was venting about work problems, so I stopped complaining to him). I was unhappy and working at the bank wasn't my dream job. I've always been loyal to him. He's insecure & I see why but I've made every attempt to ease his insecurities (invited him to company functions, introduced him to EVERYONE to the point where they consider him as their friend.) I had pictures of him on my desk (he never put mine up, I asked him). He knows everybody's names & faces because I talk about them so much that I make sure he knows who is who. I've never met any of his co-workers, and when they had functions, girlfriends/boyfriends weren't allowed. So, I recently left the bank, THANK GOD, and am working as an Executive Admin to the CEO. I've got a MGMT degree and honestly, if I could turn back time, I wish I could've started as an admin. I majored in management only because the degree had the word administration in it. So this new job pays better than the bank (I make more than him). I'm done with school, (he never finished). I'm doing something I've always wanted to do and I get to travel! How awesome is that, I'm happy. Three things that bug my man about my career: 1) I work closely with an older man (who happens to be happily married (22 years) and has 4 kids). I see him more as a father figure. 2) He thinks I can do better and thinks I'm going to stay in this position FOREVER. (I've got plans to move up, I'm even going back to school) Besdies, I don't see us getting married anytime soon. I'm all about my career! 3) I 'm expected to travel at least once a month (sometimes with the CEO). I feel he is unsupportive. I've tried to make him feel better but I don't know what I could do. So after constant arguing, he finally says, "I'M INSECURE!" But that's not how he approached it earlier. He tried attacking me by saying, you're just some man's secretary(thinking about affairs with the mistress), you've got a MGMT degree, USE IT! I think he's selfish & unsupportive, he thinks I'm not understanding and hopes that I will feel the same way he does and 10 times worse. Just like he's insecure, I go through the same thing when he works out 3 times a week, and goes dancing in the city every Friday (without me). He had a better chance of losing me at the bank with all the customers did than now. I'm trying to explain that to him but he doesn't understand and says, if this is the type of career you want (travel and what not) then he doesn't have to deal with this. I'm thinking the same, I don't have to put up with this crap. If he wants to have an easy life, finish school to make that money and support ME!
