Ok. Me and my ex broke up over a year ago. We've been on a roller coaster since then. We've gone from hating each other and not talking to talking and being mean to each other to trying to be friends to laughing and joking like best friends. I still haven't seen him since the break up but we always text. And now he's flirting. And I have to admit, he has always had my heart, even when he was at his cruelest. But he was the one that broke up with me. And I know he doesn't want a relationship with me, because he just admitted he still has feelings for me but then I tried to talk to him more and talk about us hanging out (as friends) he totally pushed me away. I don't know what to do. I always set myself up for a heartache with him. I keep hoping, wishing that we'll get back together and wind up broken in the end. I still love him. And I know he has feelings for me too but he doesn't want to pursue them. What should I do? I need advice. Help!! :'(

If his intentions are keeping you on the sidelines, which is not good for you, and that is what he appears to be doing, you should break off all contact, disappear from the picture all together. Don't answer his messages. Don't try to text him.

Sometimes you have to cut your losses and get on with your life. You may have to do it without him, but how long can you go on taking snippets of affections only to have him back off? Find someone who deserves your love; he certainly doesn't.

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You should go no contact and heal from the break up.

Any contact will only keep you in a state of limbo-not a good place to be.

In addition he sounds like a jerk.

If you allow him to hang around your life, then you will never be able to let him go and you won't be able to meet someone new.

It's already been a year of stringing each other along. It's time to take a stand. Try one more time to let him know how you feel. If he doesn't feel the same way, then cut him loose.

Why set yourself up for so much heartache by dragging this out?

Stop going along with his friend zone text buddy stuff, and disappear like you are supposed to after being dumped.

Get a life that you enjoy without him

Ask yourself this question Why do I want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me.