My husband and I used to have a really good sex life. 2 years ago (before we were married)we got back together after a brief split. Immediately after we had oral sex a few times, but soon after we found out we were pregnant, he stopped TOTALLY! Now that the baby is over a year old, he still won't do it. He also doesn't seem to really want it in return either. If I do it for him out of the blue (like a quickie) he doesn't complain, but I don't know why things have changed since the baby and marriage?

Men always complain that once they get married everything changes and they don't get sex anymore (or not like it used to be). Here, there is NO foreplay, No oral sex, NO other kind of stimulation... its just a big funny ha ha when he wants sex. He'll joke around by coming up behind me and jokingly bump or grind his "junk" into my back side and do this little laugh or "giggle" - I'm Just not turned on by that. What happened? It just seems like there's no passion anymore. It makes me feel like he isn't attracted to me anymore. He says, " That's not it" but he won't offer any other explanation.

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Did he stay up by your head during the birth of your child?
The vagina is an amazing thing. Men, being the insecure beings that they are, see their child's head stretching it beyond belief and think that their penis is minuscule in comparison. Some men can "de sexualize" they vagina by viewing a birth. I am not saying that they should not be there to see every single excruciating second (which they caused.. by the way.. ) But I think that there needs to be some understanding and compromise.
First of all, You need to remind him how much of a catch you are. I know its hard with a new baby, but try to look as sexy as possible. If he tries to do goofy things like pin you against the oven when you are cleaning the counter, look at him oddly and carry on. Do little things like you would when you two were first dating.. Touch your collar bone seductively or bend over to get something without bending your knees. DO NOT let him get away with using you to get off. When things get heated.. tell him softly.. "you know, today I was thinking about how good it feels when your lips are all over my _____) and how much I love to suck on your ____" you deserve to get exactly what you want. So make it happen!

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