Hi, I have been with my boyfriend for a year now. He has been separated from his ex for 1.5 years... so I'm not the home wrecker. There have been some issues that prevented the filing to happen before, but now those issues have been taken care of and he wants to file. The problem is she is saying she does not want me around their 5 year old son and wants that written in the divorce papers. I have never defamed her character to him nor have I ever laid a finger on him. I treat him very well. My question is can she do this?

She knows full well you haven't done anything to him. If you have been nice to her son, he probably likes you. She is a nasty, controlling, and jealous woman. The only way she can do this is if your boyfriend allows it to be written in. No lawyer that is worth anything would advise her that she should hold up her divorce for something so petty. You boyfriends lawyer needs to speak with her lawyer to have him tell her how nutty and unreasonable this is. However, be aware of the fact that she may use this idiotic notion as an excuse not to sign the divorce papers. She is probably very angry that he moved on so quickly. Was the separation his idea or hers? I suspect that she did not want him to leave and is trying to find a way to hold on to him. As I said, your boyfriend needs to push his lawyer to resolve this.

I hope this helps.

We are kind of in the same situation. My boyfriend is also starting divorce proceedings and the wife has been making trouble for us for 2 years now and I'm beginning to wonder what else she can come up with to try and stop him from getting his divorce. If you don't mind; let me know how your situation turns out. I live in the state of VA.

If what you say is true and that you've never physically or emotionally harmed the child, then probably not. She can try but it's not likely that a judge would grant it if you and he make your objections known.